When you are unhappy, do your dolls cheer you up? (Emotionally dependent on them?)

Nagi's nice to hold whenever I feel down. Sitting there and stroking his hair and generally just holding him makes me feel better. I used to do the same with my plushies, but now that I have him, they finally get a break. XD

 

like other people said I guess I'm not dependent per say. But he does help sometimes =) one night I was just feeling particularly awful. the reason is faar too complex so I'll spare you all the pain of reading out it but the first thing I did was grab taro, curl up into a large chair and cry all over him. His wig got very soggy and after a while I noticed this and tured him around to make sure he was undamaged by all this moisture. =P his face looked SO WORRIED. I couldn't believe my eyes. Of course it must have been due to me not really being able to see so clearly/poor lighing/wishful thinking whatever, but I just stopped crying at once, and started appologising to him for worying about me, and saying I was okay and nothing was really THAT bad.

Stupid I know, but his doll-like concern gave me something else to think about, and just made me feel so much better, like someone actually cared. =)

also when I'm alone, he sleeps in bed with me and though I don't really cuddle him, for fear of sleeping on top of him, I do hold his hand sometimes, if I'm not feeling very well. ^_^

 

Yes, the sure do. When I am down, I'll just hug them ^^.

 

Now Ive recieved them, I have to say...

Yes. They do. Just seeing their little faces make me want to play with them. I love how they pose, how they stand, changing their outfits and seeing them become different characters...they're such little chameleons! I love them to bits.

 

Yes. I was feeling rather down a while ago, and just the thought of having my boy soon cheered me up some.

 

Right now I feel yucky because I'm home all alone for the first time in weeks and in about five minutes, I'm going to go change the eyes and wigs on a couple of dolls and mess around with their outfits.

I don't know that I tie my emotions to them, but they take my mind off of things and give me something to do.

 

I have 5 very lovely MSDs and a floating head, I thought that was enough for now. Yes, there are other dolls I would like, but I told myself I'd pay these off first.

My husband's in the Navy, so he's gone for long stretches of time. Right now, he left on March 31st and was due back May 22nd - we've had worse. I'm glad I found this hobby, the dolls keep me company and it's fun and distracting to play with them.

However, now we just found out that he will most likely not come back until October. OCTOBER. FR%^#@NG OCTOBER.

That made me feel like I deserve another doll. So I ordered my first SD size boy. And clothes for him.

Am I crazy? o_O

 

Awh, ._.;; that really bites...
I often convince my mom to let me buy dolls with excuses like 'Come on, I've been on honor roll the past 3 marking periods, I'm a good kid I just want another creative outlet!' I don't think your crazy for thinking you deserve a doll to hold while your love is out in the army. Just don't go too overboard on them so when he comes back you can go some plce nice together and have money to spend on things you can share. I hope he does come back before October though, it's a shame to have to be without a loved one fr that long...

33 I hope things work out!

 

My girl has been a huge pick-me-up for me, even though ordering her had me totally flipped out. All the what-ifs. And she was also a gift to myself for getting through my first semester back in college without flunking any classes. ^_^;

 

I'm sorry your husband is away!

I don't think it makes you "crazy", though it might be a bit unwise, since you said you were going to "pay off" your MSDs first, which suggests you bought them on credit. Obviously you are in charge of your own finances, so no one can tell you what is right or wrong. however, I would warn you not to get too wrapped up in the purchases-as-a-feel-good trap, since I have seen many people I know get into major financial trouble that way! And they were not spending on items as expensive as dolls.

And let's be honest, as well - you could buy 50 dolls, and at the end you would still miss your husband, and he would still be gone for the same length of time.

Good luck! Having a husband in the service is a very hard thing!

 

=( I'm sorry. I wouldn't blame you for needing some comfort, him being kept away for so long.

It's not unusual for someone to get themself something to try to make themself feel better. Dolls are no different, I guess.

 

I would say so long as you can afford them, you're not crazy.

I buy Mikos stuff to make myself feel better when things go wrong- not big stuff, just the odd bit of clothing or something. It's a nice thing to do and like you said, it's a distraction. And lets face it- we all deserve something nice every now and then! ^_^

I have gotton very close to ordering a doll twice this year- both times in the grip of depression and dissapointment- but in the end I just can't part with that much money right now... wish I could.

So no- you are not crazy. And I hope your new boy is lovely! ^_^

 

I think that's very normal behaviour, and much healthier than consoling yourself with food (or other substances) I'm sorry you have such a long wait to see your husband

Liz

 

My first boy was a christmas present from my husband who was over in iraq for a year. So buying a doll to keep yourself busy doesn't seem crazy to me at all.

 

Aww, that sucks >__>

But if you're still paying off another doll - why not get something a little less pricey to cheer yourself up? ^^ Like a new outfit or wig, or accessory for your current dolls?

 

I do, but only when I have the money to comfortably do it.

I was really feeling crappy a bit ago because of a flare-up in a very long-term illness and I just didn't have the extra cash to buy another doll or even a wig for that matter. My parents (Mom, specifically) stepped in and paid for it, just because it made me happy and gave me something to look for in the mail.

Sometimes it's not bad to use dolls as an escape, but like I said, only when you're not using them to the point where you don't eat or pay your bills.

There are a lot worse habits out there than doll collecting.

 

My parents keep telling me that I have to reward myself when I do something I don't want to. Jack and Bonny were a reward for the misery I went through earning the money. Isabella and Icarus are going to be a reward for getting through my exams and holding down a part time job at the same time. Rewards are good for you ^.^

On the other hand, if I bought a doll everytime I felt sad or lonely I would be one broke kitten. I guess an outlet that would be healthier for your bank balance would be sewing for your dolls or taking photographs or something. But as long as it doesn't become an expensive habit, I don't see anything wrong in getting a new little resin friend to help you through. In fact, it's potentially something very constructive. He can be your special 'lonely' doll ^.^ whenever you feel lonely you can spend some time with him and do something new. (I have a 'get well' bunny and a 'men are scum' kitty for exactly this purpose, which probably says far too much about my life...)

 

Yes!!! Put in an order for another bjd that I wasnt even considering because I missed out on one I really wanted...and guess what, the original one came up for sale again.....$$$ poor now - Alex

 

...It becomes an expensive habit with one doll XDDD

 

I am really sorry to hear about his dealy in returning home. I think you definitely deserve a new boytoy to keep you occupied until he returns. And the best thing about BJDs is you can't get in trouble for cheating!