When you buy a doll, does anyone else have a say in what mold/company you buy?

It'll be a cold day in hell before I allow anyone else to influence what I spend my hard earned money on, especially when I spend it on something as heavily based in personal preference as this hobby is. I honestly think I'd rather not have one at all if my only option was to cleave to someone else's will on the matter.

 

No -- that would drive me crazy. However, I pay for my dolls myself, and I don't live with my parents so it's not something that would ever come up. Even when it comes to a friend's opinion on a given doll, it doesn't really influence me. My money, I'm the one that has to live with the doll, so completely 100% my decision.

 

No. I would be more likely to have someone tell me what to eat than which doll to buy. I have to really love them to buy them in the first place and my opinion is the only one that matters to me.

 

If Flying Code Monkey (Mr. Brightfires-) looked at one of my potential dolls and for some reason found that it just completely creeped him out, I wouldn't buy it... He has to live with the thing, too, after all. But he would never try to tell me what I could or couldn't have.

Now, if I were much younger and still lived with my parents? I doubt I'd have joined the hobby in the first place.

My mom's not only a penny pincher who would have had absolute fits over the price, no matter whose money was involved, but she's also prone to trying to run the lives of everyone around her. If I'd been allowed a doll at all... which is highly doubtful given the expense... she would have insisted on picking which one it was. I probably wouldn't have had any say in the matter at all. o_0

There's a reason I'm glad these dolls weren't around when I was a kid. XD

 

If I had seen this thread yesterday at this time of day I would have said 'no', but oddly enough last night I found out in some way my mother does have a good amount of influence on which dolls I get. I found a doll last night I was wanting to buy and mentioned it to my mother and she went "Really? Show it to me.", so I showed it to her and she read the listing and there were a few keywords that stuck out to her she didn't like, such as "Yellowed", "Made in 2005", "I am the 3rd owner", etc.

My mother wouldn't have stopped me from buying it had I really insisted, but she told me she was uncomfortable with me spending $500 on an old, used, maybe damaged doll and advised me against the purchase. She said she could easily understand paying that much or more for a new doll or even an old one that was just never removed from the box, but for an old used doll that had passed the hands of many owners she said she thought that was just too high a price and I respect her opinion on that, in a lot of ways I agree with her.

 

No-one else has a say in the dolls that I buy, because no-one else is involved in the purchase. I think it's completely fair for purchasing parties (in your case parents, in other cases partners or lenders) to have some say in the way their money is spent. However, my dolls are not subject to these kind of restrictions.

I like to ask my husband for his input or opinions, but the doll that I'll be buying is my doll, so in the end I have the ability to purchase exactly what I want. I don't ask him for money to buy the doll, so he does not get any veto or amendment ability.

 

Well in my case, when getting my first one- we decided to get twins with my best friend. So NATURALLY she had a say haha : ) but I think I'd consult her even if I was getting a doll different frok hers, her opinion matters to me :3

 

Nope. Although I do still live at home I work for my own money, and I stopped asking my parents for permission on what I could buy with my own money when I turned 15 or so. If I really wanted something I saved up and bought it, because I always felt if it was mine then no one else could tell me what to do with it, and I really disliked people telling me what to do with my things. Suggestions are/were fine. But out and out no you can't...yeah that never did work for me. >_> So far my parents haven't been involved in my doll buying. And I'm old enough now that even if they don't necessarily like something they won't say anything.

 

I only buy dolls that I think would be easy to make into succubi/incubi or that I think were made to look like them, and since that's such a specific category, I either get those dolls or I get nothing, so other people don't have much of a say. However, one of my friends has pitched in for me to buy both the doll I have right now and the one I have on layaway just because she likes seeing me so happy, so if she advised me against a certain one, I would probably respect that.

 

Definitely: NO.

I live on my own. I buy my own dolls. I don't consult my friends. (although sometimes I'll show them certain dolls if I want to know what they think about them.) It's all up to me. And that's how I like it.

 

Heck no! I pick whatever one is most appealing to me. I generally enjoy the more fantasy-ish ones, which is why I own soom glot and the dollzone event dragon girl.

 

Nope, no one has a say in which dolls I get. I imagine my fiance wishes he would've been able to say no before my Lusion Dahlia came, but it my hobby-related money I raised to buy her, and, well, I didn't care about anyone's thoughts on the matter.

 

No, bjd is a personal journey, if someone else choses the sculpt then I'd really not appreciate... although one day when I'm getting a second I may ask my boyfriend for kicks whether he likes it or not. But again, just for kicks. It's my money.

 

Of course not. It's my money and I spent my money for things I like, not for things they like.
Otherwise, I only take proposals from my friends - they are also bjd collectors, and when I'll get a suggestion like..."Wow, that wig is cool! Why not buy it for your doll? It sure would look really good!"...I think about it and maybe follow their advice.

 

No one has a choice in what doll I choose to buy, not family, friends or my boyfriend : ) My money, my decision. My doll.

 

I try to get my DH to help me pick one out when its gift giving time. But as the years go by he doesn't seem as interested.

 

I’m an adult, I work and pay for my dolls with my own money,
so no one get a saying on what I purchase. I don’t take in to consideration
what other people’s opinions on the dolls I like are, either. If I like something
(and doesn’t go against my morals) then I purchase it, regardless of what
others might think.

I guess that’s one of the few good things about getting old (also helps
not having a lover/husband/&/or/children). (:


- Enzyme

 

The only input I will consider is if someone knew that a doll I was considering is not worth buying (although I'd like to think I research well enough anyway). I would not buy any dolls to please someone else's taste.

 

Wow, no, what a concept. Can't even fit my brain around it in one gulp. I spent my whole life getting to a place where nobody could tell me what to do, except for Miss Death & Mr. Taxes.