Will you sell your doll to me?

Noone ever asked me to buy one of my dolls when I took my girls to outside. I only tend to take them to the Elf fair or Dolls and bears fair here in Holland. I get a lot of questions about how much she costs or how she is made, mostly because the people only heard about porcelain dolls. When people hear the price they usually do not take it up to handle my dolls because they are scared to drop them.

 

I alsmot did... >.<
I sold my shushu girl (my very first!!) in september, and badly missed her since. and scratched my paws to keep myself from writing the girl i sold her to that i want her back.
GOOD LORD she decided to sell her last month. I bought her back "as fast as I could".
now my shushu girl is with me and I'm in harmony and peace.

 

I've never had that happen to me, I only get insulted and attacked when I take my dolls out~

I don't know how I would react if someone demanded one of my dolls, but I'm sure it wouldn't be nice!

 

Most often I just get asked about the dolls (what they are made of, where to obtain them, how much they cost, etc.) But quite a few times my friend and I will be out with our dolls, and people will ask if they can purchase our dolls from us. Usually when we tell them that we are not willing to part with our dolls, and they politely reply with "okay, well they are very lovely" or something along those lines. However, on one occasion, when one woman asked if she could purchase one for her five or so year old daughter and we replied that we were not selling. The woman turned around in a huff to walk away and said to her daughter "they are ugly anyways".

 

Whoa...I was going to take Yoru with me to Sakuracon this year, but after reading through this thread I'm a little bit afraid...

Honestly, though, I can't believe some of these people who approach others. What are they thinking, asking to buy someone else's personal posession? O.o And then getting offended when you DON'T want to sell?! Some people take the concept of instant gratification just a bit too far!

Although, it also sounds like some doll owners go on the defensive too quickly when asked simple questions about their dolls. I don't think it's out of line for someone not in the hobby to ask things like 'where you got your doll' or 'what is that about'. I get asked at least once on every outing with Yoru. It might get redundant, but that's what happens when you carry something unusual with you, I figure. If you don't like it, maybe you shouldn't take them with you everywhere.

 

It's really sad that there seem to be so many folks out there without any sort of manners... I work at a cookware store and never cease to be amazed at some people's behavior (Oh, $3,000 coffee machine? Let me poke random buttons on it )
I usually am pretty open about people asking questions about the dolls, and often at public doll meets am one of the first to chime up to curious strangers. I even delight at that awed expression people get when I let them hold one of mine (After a minute of conversation to make sure they're not nutty)
However- grabbing for my doll is an entirely different thing. If you pick one of them up without asking I will give you a pretty harsh earful. If you try to grab one out of my hands, especially if I don't see you comming up, one of my automatic reactions will likely be to hit you...
If someone asks to buy my doll however, my reaction would depend on their attitude. Polite, well intentioned inquiries will get a polite but firm no. Rude, self-entitled people will get a rather harsher no. And if you don't take no for an answer I will likely get very loud about your harrassment. I'm funny like that

 

Oh geez, don't even worry about that. One of the nice things about conventions is that doll owners usually turn out en masse -- and one of the things I've noticed is that a horde of doll owners glaring at anyone with the temerity to get all pushy like that generally makes them go away pretty quickly. Strength in numbers. XD

 

This did not happen to me, but there was one case where a close friend insisted on borrowing a doll for a while. The owner didn't want to get into an argument, so she (reluctantly) agreed. She later had to firmly ask for the doll back. It had been very poorly taken care of, and received pretty significant damage.

I think that the "can I have your doll?" problem gets far worse when it's a friend that wants your doll. I honestly don't know how I would react if a very close friend insisted on having one.

 

I won't take my dolls out because I know there are rude, pushy people out there. I was at an antique show once and bought an old doll whose eyes had fell back in her head. I laid her down next to me on a bench and a woman picked her up and tried to pull the eyes out by the antique eyelashes! I jumped up and yelled: Get off my doll! And took her back. I asked her did she want to get smacked in the chops? As possessive as I am with my BJD's it is better that I leave them home!
I would never touch anything belonging to someone else without asking, I can't believe people will just touch your stuff...

 

Too often x.x Sometimes it's an innocent question but other times it can get really obnoxious and persistant. If it gets to that point I'll give em an outlandish price and if they want to pay that much, by all means I'll sell it to 'em XD

Most often than not they have no idea of the value, so as soon as the real money is quoted, the questions turn into something more along the lines of 'WHUT?'

 

never happened to me. i don't bring my dolls out of home because im always scared that something bad can happen.

 

O.o People these days are just...weird. Like they lost their brain or what??? Is it normal to just come and persist on getting something that isn't yours?? Awww man....I couldn't believe what are some people able to do, when I was reading this thread....

But hey, my experience:
It was like...two days after I got my first one. We went with a friend to town and I was taking Fei along with me. I just wanted to show him to that friend, cause she was really interested in him. So we sat in café and started to talk, I took Fei out of bag and showed him to her and blahblahblah. Then a waitress came to us and instead of asking us what will we have for drink etc. she started to rave about Feilong. I was glad, it was compliment for me, that she likes him. But after a half a minute she changed tone and started to asking how much does he cost and blahblahblah and finally she asked if I would sell him to her for 2000 crowns (that's like 100 bucks) I was surprised and kinda caught off guard, because something like that never happened to me.
So I politely tell her that he is NOT for sale. She didn't give up, thought and tried to persuade me. It was...annoying. When I told her that I won't sell him to her in ANY CASE she just gone mad and started to ARGUE with me. I was really upset about her manners so I called the "top waiter" (I dunno how to say it in english ). He took her away and apologized to us. We even heard how he scolded her...but she deserved, so no sorry her.

I won't go in that café anymore...

It was REALLY horrible and I just stare in surprise at how awfully some people can act.

 

This thread is scary !
I suppose it's a bit flattering.
But I'd get scarred if someone tried to get grabby or was pushy about me selling my dolls.

 

A long time ago, when I was fairly new to BJDs (must be 4-5 years ago now) I was walking to a doll meet with Mikos, my El. I happened to walk past a bus stop and a woman there asked me about my doll. I told her a bit about it, and then she asked me if she could buy him for her daughter, who she told me was six and loved dolls.

I didn't want to be rude, so I explained to her that resin can be toxic if it gets in your mouth, and also that the dolls are fairly fragile and come with lots of bits like eyes and stuff. I think she was a little dissapointed but agreed that it might not be right for her little girl yet, but I did give her the website address of Luts (where I got Mikos) and we parted on good terms.


A less pleasant story- a while back I was being hounded via LJ by a woman who demanded (yes, demanded) that I give her one of my dolls, or sell her one at a massively reduced price. I think she offered me $100 for one of my Delfs at one point. Her reasoning was that as I had more than one, and she didn't have any, it was fair to demand that I give her one. She also insisted that as my dolls were second hand, they were worth a fraction of their actual price!

It became so bad that I ended up making my LJ private, and when I did come to sell one of my dolls I asked people to only make me an offer if it was for themselves, in case she attempted to get hold of it by asking someone else to buy it for her. She really was that rude- normally, I wouldn't care who I sold a doll to, but she really upset me with her persistance and her foul attitude.

 

people have asked to buy my hat, I've had one conversation about dolls but that was a porcelain one and it was an old lady and commented on how pretty it was
she didn't ask to buy cause she was selling it to me (it was at a garage sale lol)
I often get asked to sell some of the very interesting things I have, due to the fact I somehow obtain these things and they can't so offer me crap money-thinking I spent a lot on whatever I have and need money
(when I don't lol)
no one gets Clover
you want clover, give me over 9000 dollars
or trade me a working tank (then I'll go back and get Clover lol)

 

Once this happened to me, at a convention, a girl asked if I was selling the doll that was sitting at my artists ally table. I figured it was an innocent mistake seeing as everything else on the table was for sale so I simply said "No, she's just my mascot, but thanks!"

 

Ive never had anyone try to grab my doll from me or touch her without permission. Im guessing if someone tried that with me they would end up with some bite marks on them. But I did have someone ask me if they could buy her once. It was the same situation that someone else had posted where it was a lady wanting to buy it for her brat (the kid was screaming and crying so yeah, she was a brat... lol!). I was polite and said no she isnt for sale. The lady started to get all mad and started getting attitude with me so finally I said, "Why the hell would you walk up to someone and ask to buy something they have on them anyways? If she was for sale then I would walk around with a For Sale sign, alright?" She just turned around and walked away while mumbling about me being a b&*$% and whatnot. But seriously, unless I was at a marketplace where people are trying to sell stuff or whatever, I would never go up to someone and ask if I could buy what they had on them! I might go up and ask where they got it or something like that, but yeah. People amaze me... O_O

 

I have never really taken my dolls out. Suprisingly in the US almost everyone hasn't heard of BJDs. Every time I mention my hobby to someone they say, "what is a Ball joint doll?" I plan on bringing my newest doll (who is still on layaway) with me everywhere. I'm pretty sure if anyone tried to take her or asked to buy/have her, or any of my dolls for that matter, I would be highly aggressive. If someone took her out of my hands I would snatch her back and threaten to call the police because she is my property and very expensive. If someone on DOA asked to buy one of my girls, I would politely decline because I feel I can trust all my fellow DOAers to be polite as well. If a little child demanded the doll and the parents decided that it was a good idea to force me to sell the doll I would be extremely upset. Nothing angers me more than spoiled children. I would tell them that they cannot under ANY conditions have or buy my doll and to back off. I sound like such an angry threatening person, but really I am not. I'm quite docile, but I am always very protective of my things. I love all of my girls and would not want to part with them unless absolutely necessary.

 

A few weeks ago I had my dolls with me after a meet-up. I normaly carry them around in a bag for protection but that day I had my two big boys and they both didnt fit. When I was waiting for my ride a woman came up to me and rudely commanded that I sell him to her. I politely as I could (I was a bit taken aback) told her that he wasn't for sale. Her response was "everthing is for sale, I'll give you 50 bucks" and made a move to reach out for him. I started to get mad and told her that wouldnt even cover a forth of the price and a few other not nice things that I can't post