Will you sell your doll to me?

Find a really nice way to tell them to f*** off and completely cut them off from you if they don't stop.

 

I don't have my boy yet, so this has never happened, but if it did, someone would be getting acquainted with my nasty side...

I'd be polite at first and say "No, I'm not selling the doll, but if I do, you'll be the first to know, okay?"

But... what they are saying to you is uncalled for. It's none of their business how you play with your dolls or whether you "love them" as much as they would, and that they'd have the gall to ask for a discount or give it to them for free?! It seems like if you're not willing to sell it, you're not willing to just give it to someone, and I certainly would not let someone borrow my doll after they have constantly asked such ridiculous questions; you could almost be certain they'd make off with your doll or not return it, and then claim you gave it to them. I have had "friends" do this to me before, and it has made me bitter towards being asked to let people borrow my things...

If someone did that crap to me, I would do everything in my power to ensure that if I did sell my doll, it would not wind up in their possession. And I certainly would not even talk to them about my dolls anymore. If all they want out of someone is to get a doll from them... then they are not worth your time.

 

Just look them in the eye and firmly say no. No is not a dirty word, and it isn't mean. If their little feelings get hurt by something that trivial then they probably have more problems than a lack of dolls. If any of these "friends" persist in asking you to give your doll to them after you've already said no, then just walk away or hang up the phone or whatever. Don't even reply. That's how I'd handle the situation, but I'm a grouchy old lady, lol!

 

I'm the same way with how Renee_Chan is. It's quite a selfish thing to do, even if they are friends. Which in my book, is NOT a friend.

A friend would NOT hound you for your doll, ever. They would respect that you have said NO and would be satisfied with being told where to get one or perhaps being helped to save for one.

I haven't been asked to give my doll away, or to sell him. To the people who see my boy, it is already a given that he is not for sale. If he was, there'd be a price tag on him, or I'd mention it. The people who typically see him are respectful in that regard.

Though they approach with a slight confusion, as they know he's not a barbie doll, nor is he porcelain. (Which is popular to collect)

They do know what ball jointed dolls are, but just never seen one. They usually ask how much and where to get one. They also understand the cost, and refrain from touching or holding Marc, or if they do, they treat him like he's fragile. Then they are all "Oh my! He's sturdy!" xD~!

I guess it just depends on where you are, and who you are around. :T

 

Guess it's same everywhere that people stare at you and your dolls with curiousity. LOL. (I'm from Korea) I had a few people ask me where they can buy the dolls but never offered me to sell it. Guess it's because people usually don't buy second-hand stuff especially when it comes with dolls.

 

I've had somebody ask me to GIVE her a doll "because I'm poor and only have one girl and you have SO many!" I played it off as a joke, and was like "haha, nah, I worked too hard for them, you'll get a boy one someday!" I'm not sure if she was serious or not....I'm pretty sure she was, but I played it off as nothing.

I've had people demand I give them non-doll things before, simply because they wanted them and for whatever reason felt entitled to have it. I've always said NO. I have to work for my luxury items, and I'm not just going to give them away to somebody for no reason! If I can save up or work extra hard for something, so can they.

 

I don't carry my dolls around so it's never been a problem, but I think people asking if they can buy is a fairly natural response to something they think is 'special' or going to be hard to get hold of. Like if you drive a retro car you might be asked if you're willing to sell, for example.

I collect vintage clothes and I've had people ask if I'm willing to sell stuff I'm actually wearing. So long as they don't start trying to rip it from you, it's fine!

 

I would ask them why they'd want my doll when they could buy one for only themselves. Because really, why?
I'm also really attached to my dolls and wouldn't want to let go anyways, so there's no chance I'd let them buy it. And borrowing them would also be pointless. I'm really paranoid when it comes to taking my dolls outside. Just taking them outside to take some photos is okay, but conventions like someone mentioned earlier? Heck, no!
The 'I'm so poor' card doesn't count. Either you save your money, do layaway or pay on credit. If you can't do any of those, then you apparently have other priorities.

 

Laoky:

Good point there. Why would they want mine, when they can pick and choose and create their own doll? :3 I find that the fun part!

I don't get the "I'm so poor card" either. I'm poor too! Do you know how long it took me to save????? 1 year for blank yo-sd out of a split and 3 YEARS to get started on a second SD sized doll. Blank, of course, and being pieced together slowly. :P

But I wanted them that bad and scrimped and saved and worked hard to make that little bit of change for a doll. A couple times I have had to dig into the funds to take care of other things.

So yeah, you're poor, and...? Work for it like I did.

 

I've never personally had that happen to me... I don't have many friends outside the dolly hobby and usually if a doll is borrowed one is lent in return.

I have been asked on multiple occasions about the dolls, and where to find and how much they cost. I've started keeping a little notebook in my pocket that I can rip pieces of paper out of to write down information and different sites etc etc..

 

If anyone ever asked me that they'd get a filthy look followed by a simple "no". I don't see why anyone would ever ask that, you wouldn't go up to someone's door knock on it and ask to buy their house simply because you liked it, or their car, so dolls are no different. I don't have mine yet but I know I'll be rather protective of her, I've always been like that with my special possessions.

 

Honestly if anyone every asked me that especially some stranger as much as my first reaction would be to give them a dirty look and say no. I truly would want to know why and I would ask them as much. And just have the conversation go back and forth from there. For instance: 'I like the way it looks' I would then reply 'how much do you think he/she is worth'. If they price low I would simply tell them that my doll is worth a lot more money, love, attention then you could ever afford. I'd give them a dirty look and a whole lot of hell no. If they price high they I would say I'm sorry but he/she is mine but if you truly want your own I would be glad to help you learn how so you can bond with your own doll.

 

I had a rich brat's father try to buy my newly obtained Pukifee Ante. Well, he was low-balling the price, and I declined. What made it more annoying is that his daughter was right there hollering like the spoiled brat she was. My Me-maw bought that doll, so of course I had no intention of selling her. Instead, I kept calm, told the man how much the doll costs with paint and all, and explained that this one was a gift, and that he needed to go to DDE or Fairyland to order it himself. He kept trying to bug me about selling the one I had then and there, I declined and walked off. People like that (with bratty spoiled children) bother me. But if they are genuinely interested in the doll and desperately want to own one of their own, I'm very polite and explain how they can get one and the general price range.

 

I've had people ask where I got the dolls, but thankfully haven't had anyone offer to buy one.

 

I've had people ask me how much my doll was? Wraith gets a lot of "Your doll is creepy" comments. Honestly, given his character, it kind of feels like a mission accomplished. XD;

Caleb's gotten fawned over, but no one had asked to buy him. A lot of people have asked where I got him and what company he's by, though.

I think I'd probably be a little creeped out/weirded out/caught offguard if someone wanted to buy one of my BJDs without my showing express intent to sell one of them or something. Just "Oh hey can I buy this doll off you right now? How much?"? Yeah. Uh. I'd probably have to find some way to tell them no. While feeling kind of creeped out and wanting to get out of there. Because being an anxiety case? Totally does not help with matters like that.

I almost wonder if that's why people usually ask "How much did it cost to buy this doll?" among the first questions. XD;

 

To be honest reading all of these stories of people grabbing owners/dolls out of owners arms has me wanting to give the advice my parents gave me when I was little and kids were touching me because I looked different.

Upon being grabbed scream and yell that your being attacked. You'd be shocked at how quickly idiots run.

Doll being grabbed - Snatch it back I don't care how rude it seems it's your damn property not theirs and threaten to call the cops.

Seriously I can't believe only one person has retaliated against those effers who touched them to get to their property and I'm only at page 9!

 

Only one of my RL friends is into dolls and she has never asked me to give her one of my dolls - I actually gave her a doll for a number of reasons ranging from I knew that dolls are expensive to save for, to knowing my doll would be going to live with a wonderful person. I don't like having too many dolls and yes I could have sold the doll, but this way I got a good friend into the hobby and I think that was definitely worth the monetary loss of not having sold the doll.

I think it is one thing to offer to give a doll to someone or sell a doll to someone, but for a person to go up to you and beg, wheedle and whinge about you giving away your doll...that is just unnacceptable behaviour from anyone over the age of two.

I wouldn't be rude to someone unless they were rude to me, but if they were rude I would give it back with both barrels. I won't be badgered into giving up something I worked damn hard to buy, especially not for a huge whopping discount.

When it does come to selling to friends, I think that it is nice to give a discount if you choose to, but the person buying from you has no right to expect one just because you're friends.

 

I've never had anyone ask if they could have my dolls, but I've had several people ask about where they could get one or where the dolls come from. I'm always honest with people when they ask. I don't see the point in lying to people or omitting part of the truth. I tell them the name of the company and how to get a doll from there. If they ask how much, I tell them honestly. I think that telling them the honest cost when they ask is doing a favour to the person who is serious about wanting to start collecting, and I also think it will more than likely deter those who are simply curious. If it were me as a potential new collector, I'd want someone with experience to tell me all they could.

As for someone asking to buy one of my dolls... if that ever happened, I'd politely tell them "no". I'd be kind of flattered if someone liked one of my own dolls enough to want him, though. I'd take it as a compliment that I own something beautiful and awesome enough to inspire that kind of feeling in someone else.

 

If someone on the street offered me anything in exchange for my doll, I'd think they were nuts, especially a pet. That's bizarre!!!

 

Thankfully this has ever happened to me (yet) but I would never agree to such a thing. My dolls are my life. No way :P