Would you lie about your BJD?

I don't lie about them, but I don't make a habit of talking about their exact prices either. I just say they're expensive and leave it at that. There are certain things where I can't help but find it inappropriate when people ask how much things cost, like dolls, tattoos, etc.

 

I feel like dolls are just like any other hobby--everyone has something a little quirky that makes them happy. Some just have higher price tags than others. xD
To that end, what I spend on my hobbies (with my own money) is my business. I don't mind telling people about my dolls if they ask, and how much they cost if the question arises in conversation. So long as I've got the munnies, I see no harm in spending it on what I see fit, dollies included. ^^

My parents knew about them from the start; I saved and bought myself one. It was my money that I had worked for, so they couldn't voice whether or not they disagreed, as it was inconsequential. That aside, my parents have always been supportive of my hobbies and didn't mind the addition of yet another one. xD

 

I love talking about my dolls. I also love showing pictures I take with them. Some people love the looks.
I would also tell them of the cost because when I was 16 I went out and got a job just to pay for my first doll, so I'm proud of my hard work to get one and not afraid to share.

 

I'm pretty open about my dolls and how much they cost. It is crazy, but somehow, most of the people that know me seem to just kind of accept it. There's some kind of; "Yeah, she's nuts, just let her have her fun" logic.

Typically, I just tell people that they're "very expensive," but if they inquire I tell them the truth. People around me have been surprisingly understanding, even those who don't know me that well!

 

well i wouldn't lie about them but i won't tell them i'm buying or into this kinda hobby since my parent's are very strict person ~
once i made a joke about the doll (i've brows so many website my mom already knew it , but she think its only for sight seeing)

i said "i think i'm gonna buy my self a doll" first she was ignoring it then she realized (around 5 minutes later)
"the doll you saw on the website? price which $500 above? yea go ahead and buy it and cherish it because the next day the doll wont be here anymore , i will threw it away"

i was like (though i already payed for my first BJD and didn't tell my parents )

so about lying perhaps i'm just gonna say "its a gift from a good friend of mine"

 

I tell anyone who asks what the dolls cost. Most people shake their heads but my parents are accepting that it's a positive hobby that's gotten me to really broaden my horizons. I normally have a hard time meeting new people, yet I went to a meet-up just earlier this month, and I'm learning to sew as well.

 

A lie would be because of a fear of telling the truth. Not giving an answer is a much healthier response and it is not lying. If I don't WANT someone to know how I spend my money, how is it any of their business?? If I were pressed for an answer I might even say something to the effect, "you are kinda nosey, aren't you" -- truth said in jest. Or, "why?? -- do you want to pay for the next one I buy?"...you get the idea. Tone helps. I don't have to say these things in my mean voice. >_<

If someone gave me money with the understanding and agreement from me that it is to go for a specific purpose, then I believe it would be wrong to spend it on something else. It is not so simple when still living in your parents home, or in marriage. But I am old, ^_^ and single.

For my personal source in deciding ethical things, I look to Jesus. I find it interesting how He very often does not answer questions. He will say something in response to a person, but he feels no obligation to answer something just because a person asks. Many times He answers a question with a question.

Of course, he is A LOT smarter than I am. Heh. But I realized people don't have any rights to info about me just because they ask. I am a people please-er, which is not a strong characteristic. Caring about people is good, but not out of a sense of obligation or feeling a need for their approval. So I work at some answers that aren't harsh, but let people know I don't consider it any of their business.

I think the point of this question is that most people feel it is their right to judge other people's choices for how they spend their money. Or that there is some concrete code for what is right and wrong about spending habits. If I steal the money, that is a concrete no-no. And there may be some others. But for the most part, money handling is complex, and personal. I may avoid being hassled by someone else's value system, but that doesn't make me a liar, or make my value system wrong because it isn't the same as another persons. Neither is their ideas about money wrong. It is not something we have to agree on.

 

I will never tell my dad I bought the doll--if he sees it, I will lie to him about the price, and tell him my fiance paid for 3/4s of it. He'd kill me--I have college to kill my money with!

All jokes aside, though--
I wouldn't flat out lie about everything.
Yes, dad it's expensive.
No, I didn't tell you. I didn't think it was important to tell you how I spend every last cent of my money. :B Love you, daddy. xD
At least I didn't spend it on drugs or alcohol. .o.
While other college kids are out being cool and partying,
I'm in my apartment with my fiance doing nerdy things. :B

 

i don't lie about my dolls. oh ive been tempted. REALLY tempted when asked about their price. but in the end when some one asks me about my dolls and gets into how much they cost and i KNOW they'll throw a big tantrum over it i just say

"I spent ore on this doll than I'm willing to admit in public"

and then when someone DOES find out how much i spent on my dolls and throws a tantrum i say

"Everyone picks their own financial burden. Some people pick having children, some people pick going to collage, some people pick buying cars. I picked BJD."

 

My parents know and a few of my friends. But if they ask I'd tell them. iv had so one say I'm a brat for having my parents spend so much money on me. But I laugh because I may be young but I paid for them my self along with cloths eyes and wigs.

 

I don't like to lie about my dollfie, it kind of makes me feel like i'm acting as though i'm ashamed of them. They are beautiful to me and since I spent so much money, and time, and effort making them the best they can be, i don't feel like i need to lie about them.

 

I did at first XD Mom thought my Delf was only $100.... >>;; but know she knows how much they are worth and only smiles and shakes her head

 

I don't think I'll be super forthcoming, since I used to be one of those people who would have gone "HOW MUCH?" I wouldn't lie, but I'd be in the "they're not cheap" camp.

I also tend to be in the rationalize camp, saying they're as much art as they are toys and they're collectibles. Also, I'm an adult and I have a job, I pay my bills (on time) so I can spend my spending money on what I like

There are much worse things to be spending money on.

 

the only people i woudl "lie" to, is ore of an avoidance, my fiancee's parents who seem to think we are.. "failing" because our values are not theirs..i.e. 3 new cars in two years and a new "camper ( read rv with a/c tv, ect) and cant understand why we aren't the same way.

 

Yeah, I lie about the value of the dolls quite often. I know that people who aren't into them would not approve of the cost because they wouldn't spend that money on them themselves. It's nothing to do with shame, because everyone has something they spend large amounts of money on - clothes, make-up, car, garden, collectibles. Our hobby is no different, but I understand that other people won't necessarily understand that. Everyone knows they are expensive, but I don't see why they have to know exactly how expensive. I woult rather avoid answering than lie outright - but I will do both.
On the other hand, I would hate to think I was ashamed of it, and will gladly tell anyone about it. My sisters both really enjoy my dolls now, and my younger sister is getting into the cheaper ones herself, because I am keen to share these days. My boyfriend, however, would rather I didn't have any...

 

I don't think it's necessary to give someone an exact dollar value on any of your possessions, frankly. The specifics of your budget aren't really public business.

I think that it's perfectly reasonable to say something like "Yeah, these dolls are not an inexpensive hobby," and redirect the conversation to something else. You can politely duck the question without having to outright lie.

Of course, if the person shows signs they may be planning a doll purchase of their own, it can be helpful to answer openly for educational purposes.

 

I really don't like when people ask me how much anything I own costs, regardless of what it is. I find the question rude, most of the time. I usually get evasive if I'm asked. I refuse to lie so my general answer is "it's pretty expensive". I showed my best friend how much my EID guy and his clothes cost but I brought that up because I said "Jeez, this guy's clothes cost as much as my own!" She is my best friend though and doesn't judge me. We've been friends for *cough*almost 30 years*cough*

My mother never asks and I never offer. My aunt asked and I refused to say. My dad has mentioned the cost too but I won't actually answer them because I know they'd be horrified. But my dad and aunt are in their 80s and they also really wouldn't understand exactly why it is they cost so much.

I would absolutely answer someone if they were another doll person and I knew their intention was actually because they wanted to buy one or what have you. And if anyone was so inclined, whenever I post photos online, I always say what the doll is so they could easily Google and find out the cost on their own.

If you want to make me mad though, I mean, seeing red, raging mad, pass judgement on the cost of something I own. That does it every time. Then I may just take my Louis Vuitton purse and hit you with it. (you as in the general you, not anyone here!)

 

I've already asked my mom for Duncun from Dream of Doll [she said no, sadly], so she knows how much these dolls can cost and when I showed her the doll my friend gave me, she just looked at me and said "You got a doll?!" in that voice that says "You spent that much money on that?!". It was pretty funny. And all my friends know about BJD's and their prices so I have no need to lie to them about it.

I have no need to lie about my doll and my future one. I find it pointless since everyone around me knows the truth about them. xD

 

I would not outright lie, but I don't like telling anyone how much my dolls cost. If someone asks or is not being careful with them I will usually go with "they're expensive" and leave it at that. I only give out the price if someone presses me for a number.

Part of this is that once the number is out there I suddenly feel like i have to justify myself and my willingness to spend that amount of money on a doll/apparently useless hobby item. The other part is that I don't go around telling people how much my flute costs, nor how much my ring cost, nor how much my sewing machine is worth, nor how much my portfolio case costs, etc. Admittedly for me, my sewing machine and portfolio case could be considered "job related" since I am a costume designer, but for most people all of these will come off as "hobby related" items that one does not necessarily need. They fall into the "having to justify myself" realm as well, but then we get on to my point: I don't tell people about the expensive items I own because of some sort of abstract safety concern.

My thinking goes somewhat like this: If I tell you that I am not a professional musician, but that I own a $1000 dollar flute or that the ring I am wearing is 14k gold and cost about $500 perhaps you might then assume that I am worth robbing. You now know that you can get a significant amount of money by lifting a single item, so perhaps your logic would then run to all of the other possible expensive things I might own.

In any case, I tend to get uncomfortable when discussing how much things cost.

 

Funnily enough, I have never ever EVER felt the need to hide anything about my bjd from anyone (including my family). They all think I'm insane and my mom gave me heck for the first 6 months or so but I mean... being around my babies enough, hahaha, she WANTS one. So I get no more heck.

Everyone I've ever encountered thinks I'm INSANE for the amount I've spent on dolls but they all know and respect that it is MY money to do with what I wish.

Also, if anyone gives you hell on spending money on a doll, all you have to say is: At least I'm not hooked on drugs or other detrimental substances.
That always got anyone giving me hell to stop and nod in agreement. XD