Would you lie about your BJD?

I don't lie, but I don't bring the topic on regular basis. Only a few people know about my doll and it includes persons that are in the hobbie, for me I just don't think is necessary claiming that I own a bjd, but if they ask me I show them the doll and answer their questions (I do the same with cosplay, I just answer if someone ask me).

 

I don't like the idea of having to lie about the price of the dolls. My doll friends understand completely even those that don't collect bjds.

Everyone else? I am just usually ignore the question and go on about all the amazing aspects of the dolls and everything that I can do with them.

The world is full of judgmental people and I don't feel like giving them any time or any space in my head. If they want to know how much a bjd costs, they can do the research.

 

I confess, I've yet to tell any of my friends about my BJD hobby.I haven't even told my boyfriend of six years.

Have you? What did you say, and how did they respond?

 

The way I see it: if someone can't accept me because of a seemingly strange interest, theyre not the kind of person I want in my life anyways. I've told all my family, friends and coworkers, and they have been so lovely about it- some even ask to see pictures of her! One of my male coworkers is even taking me to Doll North so he can cheer me on during the faceup competition. I'm so fortunate to be surrounded by such open minded people

 

You sound like you have wonderful people in your life. Oh, and good luck at the faceup competition!

 

Sure, why not? Most of my friends (and a few of my coworkers) know about them; many have actually seen some of them in person, as well. (One who hasn't yet is very curious and has already asked if he can handle them at the annual gathering some of us do next month.) I do travel with them to conventions (and attend the meets there), so it'd be tough to keep them secret from my travel-companion friends anyway.

For the record, my parents also know, but my siblings don't. But only because it's never come up!

 

I haven't actually told any of my friends, not sure if I ever will. It's kind of like my secret obsession/passion It's almost like i'm so selfish about sharing the love and joy of collecting, playing and enjoying them! Maybe someday, I will

 

Everyone who knows me knows about my boys. I am not shy about them and at my age I could care less what others think. Just let them think I'm in my second childhood, it's better than the first one.

 

All of my friends and my coworkers know, as does my girlfriend (she got me into this hobby after all!). The one I haven't told yet is my mom, because I'd rather not have to sit through a lecture about spending/saving money at my age, especially after I expressed to her how I'd love to travel around like she does all the time. I can hear it now, "well, you COULD travel if you saved your money instead of spending it on those, etc. etc."

 

Most of my friends know and are largely uninterested, which is fine; we all have our own hobbies. Although occasionally I send links to photos of cool dolls to one particular friend if it resembles one of her favorite anime characters and my sister seems to find some of the fantasy sculpts really neat. I told my mom and she made me a couple doll dresses and sent me some books on BJDs (she's Korean and lives there)...which is really sweet of her, except my dolls are 63 cm boys and she made the dresses for 45 cm. (I would be fine with cross-dressing the dolls but I think the fit would be odd, heh.)

 

I've told my friends and my parents would have found out eventually even if I hadn't told them. They see all the packages I get for them.

My friends don't really mind me having dolls. I actually got one of them into the hobby. I might even get the others to see what my boys look like and then they might consider joining.

 

It's not really a subject I bring up out of the blue as I have no real reason to. My friends know when they visit and see my dolls sitting on my shelf, and my family all knew from the second I started saving for my very first one seven years ago. I'm not about to go hiding my dolls because I don't really see a point in it, and I don't know why people would have a problem with it either. I'm fairly sure collecting dolls in general is one of the most common collector hobbies out there, even if it's not the "hip" thing to be doing. Yes, it does get awkward sometimes when the subject of cost is brought up, especially as I tend to be very frugal with my money, but I try to sidestep that subject of conversation as much as possible anyway.

 

Yes I have !
I actually made one to buy her first doll (she's been wanting a bjd for a long time anyway, it's just that she only got the push when I told her that I finally bought one xD)
My other friend makes comment like "you're still doing the doll thing ?" everytime she catches me browsing bjd stuff around, but she's pretty indifferent to it
And some other girl thinks I'm nuts lol

 

If it ever comes up in topic, I will, otherwise I won't come out and say it. Anybody that I have added on Facebook -along with other social sites - will soon know as I post pictures of my dolls but it's not like I hide it either.

 

My friends all know about it given that I post pictures of them on my dA. And they all got their own opinions. Someone on a forum I moderate kept calling my dolls creepy when I was showing my co-mods who are accepting of it, my new boy's face up and kept saying things like: "That's gross, it's too life like." I told him to please stop and he did...Dunno if being a mod or being his friend influenced the kinder response but most of my friends like my dolls. One of my friends said: "I've missed seeing Avalon with his grey wig." so that made me happy.

 

All of my close friends know. At first, some of my friends were sort of...stand-offish towards them, or kept trying to make me promise not to buy any more. Then, one day, the same two that wanted me to stop buying dolls kept giving me suggestions as to what kinds of dolls I should get next. It was a fun turn around. Most of my friends would not want to spend a night in my bedroom with all the dolls, though.

 

Of course my friends know I collect dolls, why wouldn't they? Doll-collecting in general isn't this freakish bizarre thing that no one has ever heard of. It's honestly never even occurred to me to treat it like some secret underground thing or to take it so seriously that I feel the need to have a "reveal talk" about it to anyone. It's not a big deal. None of my friends give a crap about dolls but they also don't give a crap that I do.... just like they like things I can't be bothered with and I don't care that they do.
Sometimes I text random pictures of my dolls doing ridiculous things to one of my (definitely NON-doll-person) friends when she's having a particularly lousy day at her alternatingly frustrating/dull office job, just because they make her laugh. I don't take my dolls overly seriously, and I couldn't be less embarrassed about this or any other hobby/fandom I enjoy. I like what I like.
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When my boyfriend couldn't agree that the dolls were pretty, and in fact decided that they were quite creepy, I started showing pictures to friends to see if I could get any support.
I got a little bit of support, but no one developed any sort of passion for them. I'm fine with that. For the most part they could see both sides of our opinions. Some of my more artsy friends were just happy that I'd found something artsy to get involved in.

 

Everyone who knows me, knows them. I'm not shy about my dolls and they get to leave the house a lot. I've taken them to school where my friends are, and one of my girls goes to history club with me every week for a friend who there who loves her. My closest friend has been hearing stories for years about some of my dolls, some are genuinely interested, and the others just put up with my babble because they like me. I feel like sometimes, the number one criteria for people in my life is, "Can they handle the dolls?"

It's something that I love and most of my family members have other collections or hobbies, so I feel like it's pretty acceptable when it comes to family. My brother collects nutcrackers, my mom does beading, my dad has too many hobbies to list, my grandfather collected watches and coins and mugs, and I'm pretty sure that my grandmother is addicted to jewelry. Comparatively speaking, I'm normal! Doll collecting is a rather accepted hobby.

 

My family all know. My grandmother, who raised me, was a doll collector, so everyone just rolls their eyes and says, "Oh, you got the doll gene". I don't have close friends that I see regularly, my husband, son, and I moved to the country about nine years ago, and I've become a bit of a recluse. But the friends I have know I collect dolls. They're not terribly interested, but I imagine they'd be horrified if they knew what they cost, so I don't mention it.