Would you lie about your BJD?

I don't lie because I'm not that bothered what people think of me. I'm not overly social so when they think I'm weird it's nothing new. My whole family know how much they are but then my sister buys and makes up kits for reborn dolls which go for silly money so it's not that shocking fortunately. I do love my partner and family for knowing me well enough. I'd hate to have to lie about anything.

 

Normally I'm quite open about my dolls if someone is curious, but there are circumstances I could imagine myself lying. For example, if someone I didn't trust asked how much my dolls were worth, I wouldn't tell them they're worth $500+, because I'd be afraid they might steal them to sell or pawn! And if I knew someone was a bit of a gossip, I would probably lie about my dolls value to them as well, to avoid them gossiping about me to other people.

I probably wouldn't tell anyone the total value of my entire collection, though. It's a fairly large number after 5 years of collecting, and people can get a bit funny sometimes when it comes to what other people spend on their hobbies. I think it's mostly because it's human nature to hear a large figure spent on something you don't care about and think " Just think how many [things they collect/enjoy] I could have bought for that amount!"

 

I don't like lying and everyone in my family and my close friends know about my BJD hobby. But usually, I don't talk about it to random people because some who aren't interested, will feel annoyed because they aren't in this hobby and have no idea about it.

 

Lie? About dolls? Why?

 

Hmm, can't say I would ever lie to anyone about my dolls, or their price, but I've learned that when some people ask, it isn't because they really want to know...
If I know someone is just trying to be offensive, I'll just say something like "enough", rather than lie.

I don't understand why any of us should feel we have to hide as such, though; lots of people spend crazy amounts of money on the things they love.
This hobby is just not as... well known, or conventional, I guess.

 

I'm pretty sure I'd be horrified if anyone asked me how much I paid for anything, dolls included.

The only friend that knows I go nuts over dolls and have started to collect them thinks it's cute and ... strange. My daughters just think it's creepy.

 

I'm proabbly going to avoid speaking of costs in front of my father, though I'm old enough for them to be like 'its your money,toss it as you want', apart from that, most of my friends seem to be pretty happy for me finally getting something I've been wanting for so long ^^

 

I don't hide the fact that I have dolls, but I don't talk about how much they cost--I figure if someone is into dolls, they know how much they cost and if not, it is not information they need to have!

 

I won't talk about price unless directly asked by someone who is genuinely interested. I'm in high school, so I'm wary to talk about them as a general rule of thumb (teenagers are cruel), but if they're close to me, they at least know that I play with dolls. Just not specifically BJDs. My anime/manga convention friends have seen mine and like playing with them, and since they spend tons of money on cosplay, I don't feel bad about telling them the price. Only one person outside of my family has actually seen mine outside of a con, and it was more of a well-timed accident.

 

I don't think I have ever lied or denied having a BJD, but I definitely participating in the art of simply not bringing certain things up. Like many have mentioned, I intend to never tell my parents how much these dolls cost. True, that does mean I could never ask for a doll as a gift, but I think I am willing to make that sacrifice if it means I can escape the judgement. I hate it when people judge my purchases, so I keep prices to myself.

I also sometimes don't bring up my doll collecting when talking to people. It is something I am working on, actually, because collecting dolls makes me happy and hiding huge chucks of my lives makes me very upset. So, I actually do try to make a point of mentioning my doll collecting to people I meet. Do I let them in on the extant of my collecting? Not right away, but bringing it up makes me feel more like, well, me.

 

I just don't tell my parents anything anymore. I'm 28, I have a child and I have my own house.

If my parents come over I would for sure hide them. When I first got into the hobby I used to talk about my dolls all the time and the prices. Then I hit a rough patch and sold everything, but now i'm back in a place where I can start collecting here and there again and I just feel like it's not their business... but that won't stop them from criticizing me... and I just don't need that kind of negative in my life.

My parents will never change... and because of their repeated negative comments on what I choose to spend my money on (I support myself and my son fully without any financial help from anyone) they've kind of gotten themselves excluded from me telling them things. I'm not sure if that is lying or not. I don't feel like it is.

 

The only people who know exactly how much my dolls are worth are my BJD collecting roommate and my Japanese tutor, because she asked and she's far enough removed from my personal life that it seemed alright to answer truthfully.
I will never deny that I own dolls, but I will also never volunteer information about my doll-related expenses. My parents meet every doll I buy, and they know they're expensive. I take the "heat" off the money situation from my mom by letting her know that I typically pay my dolls off over long layaways, but when speaking to my dad who doesn't believe in the benefits of layaway, it's more prudent to tell him that I amassed the money over those several months in my bank account by being frugal. Both are correct, of course, but I'm still inevitably lying to each of them half the time. They're okay with the hobby though. My dad bought me my first SD as a combined birthday/Christmas gift, after all. And also, it's money I make on my own so they can't do much about how I spend it.

 

I think that my friends, that aren't in the hobby, would be indifferent to my dolls. But I fear the day that my mom ever notice them, and inquire about the cost of all of them... Saying that she wouldn't approve is definitely a huge understatement.

 

I don't generally advertise how much my dolls cost me. (Of course I might brag a bit on a doll board if I got an amazing deal, to people who get it, share my love of dolls, but not usually in real life.) In real life have a "Don't ask, don't tell." policy on that topic. The only time I make an exception to that is if someone in my family has offered to buy me a doll for the holidays or my birthday or something. A lot of the time the person offering has no idea of how much a doll like the ones I like can cost and I do have to be fair and tell them it's a significant chunk of change that they're talking about spending. I've never been one to just go out and buy new dolls for a lot of money though. I bargain shop. I buy used. I don't buy until it's low enough that I can afford it without breaking my wallet or someone else's.

I don't view it as lying to say "That's not really something I wish to discuss." if someone does ask. Most people I know don't ask actually. They know better than to be that rude. Those that do it's usually strangers being pushy and I don't trust strangers with that info for obvious reasons. People knowing I've got dolls worth several hundred dollars and boldly advertising it is not cool if I want to keep them. I've known too many people with "sticky fingers" as they say to be too careless about announcing the value of what I own anymore.

I prefer not to lie about anything outright but that doesn't mean I have to answer someone immediately and 100% truthfully just give them the pertinent info they require if they're just being demanding and are intent upon grilling me for some reason. My dolls are ultimately none of their business after all unless I choose it to be otherwise. People can ask of course, and some people usually will even if they know you would rather they not, but I feel I have a right to my privacy and that trumps anyone's curiosity or whatever other motive they might have for asking...

 

I "fudged" in the price to my husband. Even though it was my own money! And I've only told one doll-collecting friend and one anime friend about my doll interest.

 

I wouldn't tell some of my friends about my doll because of their disliking for them. But that's probably about it at this point.

 

I wouldn't lie about the BJD, but I'd defiantly lie about how much it cost. Honestly I'm getting a more cheap doll being about 310$ or so blank, and I know tons of tolls cost way more than that blank, but that would honestly be the only thing I'd lie about...simply because some of my family members would just roll their eyes and ridicule me over the fact that I spent so much on a "toy". Anyone else feel like this?

 

I tell people I get them so I can sew clothes for them and sell the clothes. I really just like them.

 

I rarely discuss BJD with people out of the hobby. Especially very practical people. Mostly they don't understand what for one may need SO expensive doll or what fun is having one. Or a FEW!! So, I'd rather be cautious. Save on my nerves and words
And sometimes I won't tell the exact price. I can just say that this is quite pricy and that's it. Usually my neighbours are satisfied with that. Because if a person is really interested, I see it. In that case I can talk free.

 

I don't give a number to my mom cause she would freak about that but i do tell my best friend and it shocks her but not so much and i try to buy a my dolls through a dealer with a layaway plan. It makes me feel better about the cost.