Would you loan someone your doll or ask to borrow one?

They are material objects and that's why they aren't always replaceable ... I have lp 's and cd' s which are definitely material objects but stopped produced decades ago and certainly are very hard or impossible to replace them , the paintings in my atelier of our art group are definitely not replaceable ... sure I can paint some other paintings If those get destroyed but they 'll be never exactly the same ... if those are gone are sadly gone forever. It's different to be able to get over it & different to push your luck.
Unique items like ooaks , paintings e.t.c. are unique and so not replaceable ,limited items like out of print books, some lp's e.t.c might be not replaceable as well. Someone who misuse with danger of destruction of the item a painting or culture like books & lp / cd especially rare ones simply "because they are objects" may stay in history as the destructor of a unique art piece or a rare edition of a cultural item (sometimes never to be found and archived again) and ridiculed as that , there are examples of people ridiculed like that especially with paintings, prototype chores & rare books ... p.e. the doctor of Van Gogh who used his portrait painted by Van Gogh to close a hole in the wall, he will be ridiculed forever...
I'm responding to the general "items are replaceable" so I bring examples of fine arts & culture to say "no they are not" ... to say that art & many collectible items are not replaceable at all ... and as about bjd here you will find ooak which are not replaceable & limiteds hardly replaceable or not replaceable too ...
I still seek a book I once lent, and the editions are closed now and this book never got in print again and so I simply can't find it , nowhere literally ... It was my father's and 1963 edition ...I lent it to a close friend but who couldn't see the value of material objects like a rare quality book and couldn't take responsibility off such as I saw ,It wasn't an expensive book but it was extremely rare , and so I got my lesson (when my father learned the fact I lent that book, said "now it is lost" ,he was so true!)... & I won't babble about the numerous vanished/pinched or coming-back-dirty-so-they-don't-play-anymore cd which gave me a good lesson too ...
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....So to answer I could lend things like books ,cd, some expensive things etc only to persons who can appreciate the value of those and return them as is , those have to be very close friends & also must can appreciate culture , I don't lent things to people who have very much money because they can't appreciate others things/value of things/culture because their money usually give them the impression that everything is replaceable ... when there are many limited ,ooak things which are simply not replaceable at all or things with sentimental value (p.e. my guitar) which are also not replaceable. I don't lend things to people who can't take good care of their own things ... I don't lend things to "hang out" friends but only to close friends which I trust ... Neither me & neither anyone in our group (who share the collection) have much money to cover damage or loss of someone elses irresponsibility ... So with all those terms the number of people I could lend things to is very very small.
Even more about painting & art / ooak items - art dolls which are displayed in home or atelier, art never never "used" in any – art of course only displayed (and created for display only ,always) , and I could trust only my boyfriend or best friends in our art group p.e. to safe-keep them , none of us lend such things (a ooak-bjd might fall in this category, but I don't have any) , my guitar & bass are used only by me & I mean only by me and same with safekeeping here ... my father's old books out of print/rare cd & lp .. all those are used very carefully especially the books and I don't lend them ever, the only ones who I could trust with such things are my boyfriend and my very best friends into our art group - about expensive items like bjd (mostly the limited bjd-parts) are falling in this category ... Sorry , I babbled much about other things like books/music/art but I think it is related as everything drops into how easily we lend things of culture or value.

 

I would never lend my dolls, not even to my friends who know a lot about dolls. They're just to valuable and I always want to know what my friends do with them, that's why ^^

 

I've heard stories of someone sending out a doll to a "friend" and then never got it back. Maybe it was because they had to ship the doll back to the owner and couldn't afford it or maybe that friend wasn't really a friend in the first place. In my opinion I wouldn't trust lending my doll to a stranger and I wouldn't lend my dolls to a friend unless I'm around or unless I completely 100 percent trust the person and I don't typically trust people.

 

Ha! If I can't even lend out £5 to my best friend and get it back on time, fat chance I'd lend them my doll.
But I've got problems trusting people with things, from bad experiences when I've believed some one would have the decency to treat it better than their own things. I can still remember the time I had accidentally left a CD case full of PS1 games (back when the PS1 was still very popular and expensive, lol) at a friends house by accident, a friend who I thought I could trust, and all of a sudden when I asked for it back there was a lot of 'umms' and 'aahs' and it appeared to go on a tour of the country with them. Sigh.

But all of my friends are non-doll people, so if I were to even consider lending it out, I'd have to educate them on all of the basic care factors of it... And lets face it, after five minutes they'd stop listening and just want me to hand over my doll.
But if I had a doll friend who I trusted well enough and had some form of compensation (like one of their dolls, or something) then I wouldn't mind as much. They'd just have to realise I have very little patience for other people breaking my things and they wouldn't get their thing back from me until they had either paid for the repairs or fixed it themselves. I'd do the same for some one else if I broke their things - I recently borrowed a computer tablet from my friend and promised I'd buy her a new one if I broke it. She was hoping I would, lol.

But in short only if there was a complete understanding of the care necessary and the value, and compensation too. Which is pretty much a noooooo at the moment.

 

I would lend out my boys but only to friends who are in the hobby or are saving for their first doll.

 

No. Even if the person was a really close friend and had BJDs of their own, I wouldn't. No reason for that. It's just something I feel very uncomfortable doing.

 

Nope. None of my friends are even interested in the hobby, so I wouldn't see why they would want to borrow my doll. Plus I'd feel worried all the time and what's the point in letting people borrow something if you're going to feel worried.

 

if something were to happen to mine, I'd want it to be on me. The only person I would trust to have mine would be my boyfriend since he has like 8 of his own. And I think we're close enough that a doll related mishap could be dealt with without someone secretly hating someone forever.

 

Haha, can I charge a doll lending fee?

I wouldn't mind lending out one of my less expensive dolls to any of my lifelong friends. It's even come up in conversation, we just haven't made the drop, do to speak. Not everyone I know wants to buy a doll, but they are fascinated by them and like to make stuff for them. So I wouldn't have a problem with leaving one of them with someone I trust.

 

I have a doll in my possession right now that is the owner's very FIRST doll and she had it for only about 24 hours before she lent it to me and I'll have it for a whole week. There are some special circumstances here though:

1. She's away camping and was not taking the doll with her anyway.

2. I'm making clothes for the doll.

3. The most important, determining factor that influenced her decision to trust me? I'm her MOM.

 

And you'd better be taking good care of her, Mom!

 

No.
Mainly because I don't know anyone who would treat them exactly the same as I would. I have little doll friends, and they all have their own views and will probably dress them up differently ;_;
I just don't loan things that cost me that much. The only time I lent something expensive was my camera to a fellow photographer.

 

*lol* Mom!

I would also trust my mother with my doll(s.) Although I would NOT trust my siblings, oddly enough my brother yes - but my sisters *heavens no!*

Also, other friends that are into the hobby, I would trust them. But I wouldn't want them to be away for long!

 

It's not so much as lending as... swapping. XDXD My doll friends here in Honolulu (whom I consider my best friends and see very often) and I swap our dolls depending on mood and who we want to spend more time with, or even according to the progress of our various RPs and the interactions between their characters. For example, I finally got my Guren and so mkhikaru tossed me her Masahiro and I've been "babysitting" her Ein for a good five months now. XD And she has my Loki, Suzume, and Caleb, as well as the various floating heads I own that need to be face-upped.

It's fun and I trust my friends with my crew, which IS weird for me since I normally hate letting people borrow my things. But... for some reason, it's different with them.

 

Haha, I don't even lend people $5 for lunch much less a $300 piece of my heart.

 

To friends? Yes ... To a stranger? No way.

I've left my dolls with friends before (My god-daughter has Daisy, my DH Soo, right now-), and I've hosted theirs. As long as I trust the person to take care of them, I don't have any reservations about doing that. But there's no way I'd hand one of my dolls over to someone I didn't know as well. They're too valuable and I'm too fond of them to risk never getting them back.

 

Of my doll friends there are only two I'd do that with. One I've swapped dolls with all the time although those dolls have been blythes and not BJDs. I would leave my boys with her though, as I trust her. My other BJD friend is a guy and I'd trust him too; he's so careful with his dolls. Better then I am with mine actually. Anyone else...no. I do have trustworthy non-doll friends but they wouldn't be interested in them.

 

I loaned my one IP EID girl to a good friend who was going to make clothes as part of a trade for another doll. Plus she shipped her on to artist who was going to do face and body. So it worked out well for all 3 of us.

 

I would only loan them to very good friends. So far I only know one person who I would consider loaning a doll to. I would also freely leave them at my bf's place if I needed to for some reason, but it's not really a loan because he wouldn't be doing anything with them... That's just a favor to me XD

 

I've let my dolls stay over at my very close friends' places for a while, but just people who are...practically family. And who know how valuable they are and to be careful with them and not let the cats near them. But then, said friend also loaned my doll her $200 kimono, so.