Would you sell your collection for a spouse?

No and no and no! I'm not even sure I'd choose to sell my Scout if it was a "your doll or {person you love}" situation - there's always an alternative!

 

Considering that I could still read, write and paint- definitely yes
I understand that it'd be a supernatural 'deal' (I'd not make a deal with the devil, but with God-sure, why not, so that's why I'm calling it generally 'supernatural') and not like some toxic narc bumhole would make me get rid of the collection.

Also... Do you mean @moonbabe that I could not rebuy that particular collection or have any dolls at all?

Either way, I could resign from them. But provided that I could live happily ever after for the rest of my life and not just lose my love tragically within a few years down the road lol xD

That said, I loooove my dolls

 

Adding my 2¢ to the "no chance in hell" group.
I have never been one to change myself for others and have never been interested in people in that way/to that extent anyway (don't want to be either). How could you even pretend to be happy after having to get rid of something you love so much, have worked so hard for?
It's not even about the dolls at that point, if someone wanted me to stop participating in a hobby that I got fulfillment from or get rid of anything that made me happy I would have to question what's wrong with them. What makes them think they can just demand that of others, especially those they claim to care deeply about? Why would hurting someone like that bring them joy? I could never even consider asking that of someone (even if the hobby/interest does not interest me) so long as it isn't harmful to the person or others.
At times I've felt like just tossing everything, dolls included, but not because anyone used that as a ultimatum to stay with me (if anything that's more reason to keep the dolls and ditch the the person). No one needs that kind of person in their life.

@Enzyme
You may be in the minority but you're totally not alone *waves*

 

Been with my husband for 43 years and he took me for better or worse and believe me this hobby is the better as I have had very expensive hobbies in the past and he loved me through all of them so I have the man and life of my dreams and dolls are very welcome here.

 

They don't fill the same hole for me, dolls are a hobby, partner is my... partner? It's such a difficult swap to imagine! In a situation where trading dolls with the devil would save my partner's life, though? Absolutely would give them up and throw some wigs + clothes into the pit just to seal the deal.

 

In a "push the button" context, I'd give up my current dolls if it meant I'd have the 'perfect partner.' As much as I love my dolls, I feel a real human life would be more valuable to my well-being and existence, especially if they were tailor-made for compatibility and happiness. We could learn to make dolls together!

 

My first husband was jealous and controlling like this (and he turned out to be a dangerous, gaslighting psychopath!) so he had to go. I was able to trick him into 'deciding to leave me' and at that time I had only two dolls, which I bought in 2006 and still have. For the next five years I dated on occasion and some of them were neutral or okay with my bjd hobby while supporting my art and video game hobbies, but still ended up being garbage where it mattered most.

At 29 I was lucky enough to meet and eventually propose to someone who truly loves me and supports all my hobbies, even if he doesn't understand some of them. So I don't have to worry about my husband insisting I get rid of my dolls. In the 'deal with the devil' scenario... well, my husband doesn't believe in the devil, so it's probably a human. In which case, I'm extremely overprotective of what's mine (husband, family, friends, stuff, etc). If someone threatened his life I'd choose violence instantly before my brain even registered some silly "deal".

 

Flat "no" from me.

If I flip it around, I would not want a partner who "bought" me by giving up something they loved, so why would I think that someone "perfect for me" would be comfortable with me having done the same to them? I think this question is one that cancels itself out. No one can be perfect and still ok with this at the same time. And I believe very much in being open and honest with both one self and each other, so doing it and not telling would also be a delabreaker.

 

Best answer ever! And as for me, no, absolutely not! As the happy recipient of a long, loving marriage to a wonderful and understanding man, why would I ever even consider such a thing? My husband has fully supported my hobby without complaint…which is a perfect example of his undying love for me. Nuff said!

 

The person who I always dreamed of would never ask me to give up my girls.
If they do ask me to give up my girls then they are not the person I always dreamed of.

 

I think you should put that you meant this into the OP message since many people won’t see this reply. It’s interesting to wonder whether people would make a magic trade like that, a beloved hobby for a perfect partner magically coming to you, and I bet a lot of different answers would come up, making for a cool topic.

Meanwhile, the other interpretation (“spouse wants you to give up your dolls for some reason”) has been discussed a lot already (versus the magic trade question, which I’ve never heard anyone ask during 15yrs in the hobby), is an unfortunate real world behavior of people that many of us have already seen or heard of happen, and also will consistently be answered with many very similar posts that all have the (correct) take that someone who respects you won’t force you to completely sell your treasured hobby items for some reason.

 

After reading the answers I realise that perhaps I’ve also misinterpreted the question too. My original answer still stands regarding the scenario I thought you meant.

As for the ‘deal with the devil’/press a button type scenario I’m old enough cynical enough to still answer NO! Why? Because nothing works that way, remember the saying ‘Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!’. The so called spouse of your dreams would be hollow shell, a lie, constructed around what you desired at that moment which may be fine initially but in time your wants and needs would change and they would no longer be that dream so what then? Do you just cast them aside like a toy you’re bored with? Do you ask for another deal and trade them in?
You asked what the price would be well there it is. For you the price would be guilt, resentment and regret but for the poor spouse the price would be much higher.

 

I guess this is one of the benefits of being Asexual and not having an attraction to anyone is that I can cheat my way out of this question lol.

So in short no. This imaginary person will have to grab my attention some other way lol.

 

Absolutely, positively NOT. The dolls are my main hobby and they bring me so much happiness and entertainment. They are an escape from the crappy real world, a way for me to get lost in their characters or changing their clothes or working on them. Giving up a hobby that makes me so happy would destroy me. It's a fun hobby that hurts no one, so why would someone who truly loves me ask me to give that up? My first doll arrived about a week before my wedding. He did ask me not to bring the doll on our honeymoon, which is understandable since my focus should have been on him, and packing a doll around Disney World wouldn't have been very fun...but he has embraced my hobby with open arms, and loves that I have something to keep me busy while he games with friends. We both enjoy our hobbies separately, yet in the same room together.

The ONLY time I might consider selling my dolls for him would be if he got extremely ill and the money would help pay for his treatment. But if it's not a life and death situation? No way in hell.

EDIT: As for trading my dolls for the perfect partner...also, no. The hobby is a part of who I am. Some people might want that "find your partner to feel whole", but I think I'd just feel more empty feeling like I gave up a big part of myself.

 

Everyone else here has addressed this question for the huge red flag it is but I just have to brag that -

No, I would not sell them, because I already have a spouse and they're the one who got me into this hobby in the first place. ^^

 

Nah, the perfect partner would at least accept my hobbies, if not engage in them at least a little bit. No deal.

 

I don’t actually want a spouse. This probably sounds surprising, given that I’m guessing a spouse is important to the person posting this. I actually want to live alone, in a spooky looking house full of dolls, continue my queerplatonic relationship that I’m in with 0 pressure of marriage, and keep my dolls. You couldn’t persuade me to trade one doll for a spouse because marriage is not a thing I want to have.

(bonus: I’ve been in the hobby since 2015)

 

Honestly, I wouldn't have gotten into this hobby without the help of my spouse. I was always too afraid to spend money on anything but the bare necessities on my own. I was convinced that some horrible disaster was around the corner that would need all my money.

But if I had to choose between my spouse and dolls, the dolls would have to go.

Edit:
I mean as in the devil is forcing me to choose. I don't think my current spouse would ask me to do that unless there was a dire need.