Would you sell your collection for a spouse?

Nah. I love my hobby, and I've been single for waaay too long to value someone else's opinion over things I love! As I've gotten older (30s), I've realized I'm a lot happier on my own and not being accountable to anyone else - especially on doll spending, haha.

 

I wouldn't. We're all allowed to have our hobbies, and I'm attached to what I have. I've lived this much of my life single, so I'm used to it, I guess?

 

I was with a jerkface who wanted me to only like the things he enjoyed. If he changed his mind about a book or website, I must change my mind too. I have no desire to return to a relationship like that.

Also, I'm demiromantic. The perfect romantic partner can't magically appear if I gave up my BJDs. I'd rather keep my dolls and stick with the spouse I've known and bonded with for over half our lives.

 

No, I really wouldn't. If there's one thing I've learned in general, sacrificing 'happiness' for a different type of 'happiness' just doesn't end well.

I prefer to find happiness I can build or work towards with my own effort. Though, I really wouldn't mind some random handouts from lady luck on occasion. And unfortunately for this so-called "dream person" - I am pretty good at keeping myself happy, so I'd rather single forever or just meet a different partner who will at least respect me having my own hobbies.

 

My fiancé doesn't collect anything, and it's not his thing but he's supportive of me and my hobby. While he doesn't really talk about it with me, he lets me tell him about BJDs and I'll show off any new ones I get to him. He's been very open about letting me do me and how he's happy if I'm happy. He doesn't really understand it though, and thinks some of my dolls are creepy but he wouldn't let that stop me from enjoying myself. That said, I do keep most of my dolls in a cabinet, behind closed doors. I don't mind this, and it's worked well as a safeguard now that we have two curious cats.

I did briefly date someone who later become a friend for a bit who was so judgmental and rude about it. He'd make comments about any of the things I collected like my dolls or anime stuff and they were always condescending. I had moved away, but we stayed in touch on Instagram. I eventually blocked him because his comments about any of the things I did were usually negative. I'm way happier without someone like that in my life.

I wouldn't give up my collection for a spouse.

 

No.

When I was about to get married, I thought that I had to give up dolls, but my husband is so amazing that he supports my hobby and he's against selling my dolls without a good reason. The right person accepts you with dolls and everything.

 

If i had to give up my dolls, clearly they're not the right person. Dolls make me happy.

But let's say there was some magical force involved... honestly that changes nothing, i've been single my entire adult life and i'm already hopelessly in love with a friend who's not interested. i can take being single and i can take dating (in theory lol). i don't want to not have my characters in hand that i've already bonded with and saved up a long time to have.

I also don't believe in the "perfect" match, so i'm probably not exactly the target audience for your question.

 

That would be kind of a strange condition for a wish unless it was granted by a anti-dolls genie but, anyway, I don't think so. My dolls, as my other hobbies, are such a huge part of myself that giving them up wouldn't allow me to be the same around this allegedly perfect person. Many of my dolls are in fact rare to find so it would be impossible to rebuild the collection, so I would be really sad and wouldn't enjoy that new relationship in the way it should be enjoyed.

 

Hmmm. If this dream person had the facilities/inherent magical power/understanding/endless dollars to make my peeps and my own life amazing and love me then yes. Very yes.

To save my sweet partner, then yes.

For a regular human being without magic, monies, the ability to enrich life but who just happens to be pretty/good in the personality it's a no. Very no. Resin boyfies & girlfies forever.

 

ummmm, if that was really the perfect one, than yes. But Jensen Ackles is already taken :P

 

No no and one more time no! dolls are my life and if I sell a doll, it's only because I don't like it anymore)

 

Now I desperately want to hear everyone's answers to the converse - red button choice between spouse and perfect doll.

 

As someone who answered "absolutely not" for both the partner forcing you to give them up, or trade for the perfect partner, this is an interesting flip. Already having both my dream partner and my collection I love, if I had to choose which to let go, no way around it, then the dolls would be gone in an instant. I think this is the one way to twist the question where I absolutely would pick partner first.

 

Hard no. My husband doesn't always get my hobbies, but he's never stopped me from having them, other than putting a hard cap on the number of dogs we could have, back when I was showing and breeding. He's a wargamer, and I've painted some of his miniatures. He lost a couple of gaming friends to marriages with women who made them give up their hobbies. I never have. He even insisted on coming to a doll meet once, to see what it was about. Still doesn't get why I spend so much time on working on my dolls, but he knows it makes me happy and that's enough for him. Oh and btw, we've been married for going on 40 years!

 

ive sold my dolls to make rent, to fund other dolls, for vet bills and ive even taken a break from actively being in the hobby but i dont think id ever EVER sell them for a partner. I had a partner that was a bit controlling and patanoid and prone to anger, he even broke the leg of minifee mir on the boy moeline body...he wanted me to be more like him and i hated it. If im with someone that wants me to sell my dolls because they dont like them that just shows that they dont accept me.

 

Nope! My husband wouldn't be my husband if he took an issue with my doll hobby. He doesn't exactly "get" it, of course, but he understands that it's important to me and brings me a lot of joy.

That said, I did sell a doll inadvertently because of him once! The doll in question was wigless for some time and he lovingly dubbed her "Caillou," which was a name/title I could never un-stick from her. It honestly ruined her a bit for me, so I sent her onward. I did receive many profuse apologies for that one

 

For someone who is in a situation where I can't be with my perfect person for an invisible wall reason and got into this hobby thanks to them since '07. No, couldn't do it and neither could they.
Sorry devil, we wouldn't be happy if the other gave up something of themselves nor would we be happy if we gave up something of ourselves. My dolls are staying and my bestie will stay my bestie until we can break that wall down. It all makes us who we are.

Well that is my perspective on this hypothetical question.

 

I often contemplate these questions, because I have yet to confront them in life. If it were a long-term partner who was concerned for my mental / financial health, or if it was to help our living situation / big plans, I would be willing to cut down. After all, people come before objects. But because people come before objects, I am also people, and I'd never sell them all unless I wanted to. Sorry, Imaginary Future Spouse.

As for a casual date, no way. They can go before the dolls. Wouldn't have been a good match anyway.

That is both unfortunate and adorable. He sounds like a treasure.

 

After watching American Horror Story: Coven (season 3) and going to law school, I know that I would be terrible at a red-button deal with the devil.
Spoiler for those who haven't seen all of Coven:
So remember when Fiona tried to get Papa Legba to help her stay Supreme? And he gave away the whole thing by asking her if she would be willing to kill her own daughter? That's why I couldn't do a "deal with the devil" choice. I would have so many questions. Are you going to actually do something, or are you just going to tell me something you know is going to happen? Cuz if I'm making some sort of sacrifice, you have to do some sort of work too, Mr. Demon Choice-giver. Just passing on some info you have isn't enough.
I'd also want a contract with some sort of liquidation clause if Mr. Demon Choice-giver didn't live up to their end of the bargain, some kind of indemnity, strict definition of terms, enforcement provisions, an arbiter to enforce the deal...
If I believed in hell, I don't think there would be any lawyers there. Hell wouldn't want us. (nag, nag, nag; question, question, question)

 

No! Because no one is perfect.