Would you sell your collection for a spouse?

Yeah I would. Only this theoretical magic doll trading deal would prevent me from dying alone.

 

Nope. Never settle. You can has both

 

Hard no.

 

Not common (I think) and definitely not reasonable. Good for you for dumping him.

 

Absolutely not. I would never give up a piece of myself for someone else. If they ask this of me, they don't love me. Luckily, I have a partner that will go to doll cons with me, and one year even surpised me with a Peakswoods Tristan

 

My engagement is very happy even with the dolls (although sometimes the prices cause some frowns haha). Since I'm already in a happy relationship, I'd say I wouldn't give up my dolls if my partner just wanted to get rid of them, but I would sell my collection if my partner somehow became deathly allergic or we needed the money for their medical bills or something.

 

Absolutely not. Goes for any hobby really. If someone doesn't accept my hobbies or the things I love and am passionate about, they are not the "perfect someone". The perfect someone supports me and passions instead of forcing me to bend to their will.

 

Haha nope

 

If I needed to do so for medical bill reasons or something like that, yes. Otherwise? Nope~ Although my husband doesn't mind most of my dolls. The only ones he doesn't care for at the ones with "too many eyes".

 

But I already found my true love, and it’s her fault I’m into dolls!

 

Nope. No way !

 

Luckily, my husband is lovely and while he doesn't understand the dolls, he's happy that they make me happy. He's not perfect (neither am I - we're all human after all!) and yet there isn't a single possession I own that I wouldn't give up for him without a second though. (Again, this is assuming a magical scenario where some magical being asks me to pick one, not him suddenly turning into a raging a**hole as telling me to abandon things I like. In that case, he ain't who he is anymore).

 

I believe that OP is asking if we'd exchange our collections for a guaranteed partner in a kind of trade. I wouldn't, but it took me some thought to get to that conclusion.

I'm comfortable being alone, always have been, but at the same time I've also always thought it'd be great to have a partner who understood me and everything that makes me myself. Giving up the dolls in order to guarantee that partner would also be giving away part of me, thus defeating the "purpose" of finding a spouse. I'm sure I'd love them more than anything else, but there would always be a little hollow space where something else I once loved used to be.

Maybe that's taking dolls too seriously, but it's more than that for me. It's a creative outlet, it's the reason I've picked up so many other hobbies (sewing, knitting, etc.), and it's something that's gotten me through a lot of tough times. So in the end, no, I wouldn't give up the hobby for a spouse, but it wasn't the easiest decision.

 

This is quite a tough question. If my partner were my absolute dream partner and we're guaranteed to be happy together forever and beyond - yes. But that's a few stipulations, isn't it? We have to be happy together? Forever? And after?

I'm not sure I'd want to be in a relationship with so much pressure...

 

The short answer is yes.

The longer answer is, it's complicated. I am actually currently married and my wife has struggled with this hobby of mine for a little while now. I am a male, so to her she does feel a little weird about being married to a man who likes dolls. She's gotten over it for the most part, but she doesn't like them around. They are pretty much secluded to the basement where I do my gaming. She doesn't fully understand the desire or care about it herself, but she's grown to accept that it's something I enjoy and she respects that. Thankfully she is mature enough to where she understands that there needs to be some give and take in this.

However, if she wasn't this way and she one day decided that she just couldn't handle it anymore and told me I absolutely had to sell them or she would leave, then I suppose I would sell them. I would do it for her because as a husband, I made a commitment to her. I have to respect thay commitment. Now, there would be consequences if she did this too. I may have some resentment or animosity towards her. It may even damage our relationship because in my eyes I would view it as a sign that she doesn't respect me or love me enough to accept my hobbies or who I am as a person. This would be tough for me, and without going into details too much, we have had our marital issues in the past. If she had done something like this during those times where we were already at the edge of divorce, I may have said "fine, I'm choosing the dolls over you." It may have been the final straw.

Truthfully, I can be thankful now though. She has become accepting of this for me and hasn't given me grief for it. She doesn't want a house load of them or anything and purchasing the third one took a bit of convincing because of this too. That being said, I don't have a deep desire to purchase more and more. I would be happy with even having to reduce down to one doll.

I don't know the full details of your situation. I didn't read through this entire thread either, so I apologize if I am speaking out of context here. I think that if you are facing a situation where your significant other is struggling with your hobby, you should sit down and talk to them about it. Get to understand why they feel weird about it and maybe help them understand where your desires for them are coming from. Communicating is the key to keeping the relationship alive. If we don't communicate our feelings with them, they will never know. They can't read our minds no matter how well we think they know us.

Please be honest with yourself, too. Take a step back and realize how this could be affecting other things in your relationship as well. Are you in a financially stable situation to afford another doll? Are you putting too much time and effort into the hobby and less so on your significant other? Has it gotten to the point that it's become more than a hobby and more like an addiction? Without communicating with your significant other, you may never know why this is causing a rift in your relationship. It could even be something that is just covering another underlying issue. Be honest with them and be honest with yourself!

Edit: I read through more of this thread and realized it was a hypothetical, not a real situation... Still, I am going to leave this here just in case it gives someone going through a real life scenario relating to this food for thought.

 

very cheap person. probably i could get him for free.

 

In my friend's words, "hell fucking no..."

It can be a lot of money like my friend's collection, but if he loves you, he wouldn't ask you to give up a part of yourself.

 

Nope! I wouldn't allow anyone to ask me/require me to give up my doll collection; something that truly makes me happy.

 

At first I wanted to say no. But if I think about it some more, my dream partner would be rich, so I could comfortably learn to sculpt and cast some more dolls for myself!