Your Bad Experiences With BJD's in Public

Luckily, I haven't had too many bad experiences. Some people have accused my doll as "creepy," but I just laugh it off; I'll probably never see them again, and their rude comments mean nothing to me. I love my doll, and that's all that matters to me.

 

I think that since America is so big there are more probabilities to find someone mean than in other places. But it can be also because of the mentality, from what I've heard, there in Japan people respect much more other tastes or "urban tribes", in America, Europe or another zone going weird dressed or carrying a doll wich seems so real may be considered weird or creepy.

 

Nah, the people here are just more out spoken on their thoughts I think. I would never be able to even go near or touch someone else's things unless I asked...and I'm shy so I hardly would see that happening. Some people don't even realize they are being rude until someone points it out. In this country you find out who is rude and who is just playing with you really quick. Then there are people who just don't care for anyone but themselves. There are people like that all over the world, you just are not seeing posts about it here because, of course, some of them don't know English. You learn to live with the diversity of the people here. I remember when I got to attend a vocational school for two years they had over 30 different schools from 4 different counties attend there to learn a trade. Let me tell you, it was an eye opener for me. People are rude left and right, fights brake out in a big place like that, and you have to watch out for people who don't like you (they shove you, belittle you, flick water in your face, etc.). Even though I'm not the most talkative person or too outspoken I had about three to four different people who didn't like me for no reason at all. That place I could NEVER of taken my dolls. I could just see one of the taller boys taking one of my sweet dollies and throwing them across the room to their buddies -shivers-.

 

I havent had a public experience yet because I am worried about the sun and maybe people stealing, etc. But I have had a moment where I dropped food on the floor and asked my cousin to pick it up for me because I had my boy on the table, and headphones on. I couldnt move. She ignored me even though I asked politely 7 times, then I got mad and I tried to pick up the food. My Msd boy got knocked off when I swung my chair and the headphone wire (plug) turned him as he fell over. The top of his head came off along with his wig and he fell on the floor. I got so mad at my cousin for not helping me. I know it wasnt her fault he fell, but she couldve at least helped me. My boy was fine, probably shaken inside but fine Since his head is magnetic nothing happened (thank goodness....)

 

Actually I love getting the crazy looks from people when I take my dolls with me to the fabric store or even the mall. Most the time the people that ask about it are really nice but then there are the few that stair at you endlessly from across the room to affraid to come ask.

The worst experience I've had with this how ever would be.
My friend brought her bjd with us to McDonald's and we ordered and took a seat. A young woman that came in later. Also ordered and while she was wait for her order she stared at us like we were crazy. I could almost read her toughts just the way she was looking at us.

other then That most people will come up and state something obvious about the doll like. "your doll has purple hair." And ofcourse its just a conversation starter. I've got "AH! Shes so pretty." (even if my dolls a boy ^^; ) I try and ignore it and just answered kindly " Ah thanks!" though there is the occasion I'll tell them its a boy and they'll kinda freak out a little like "omg its a boy really?!" But I dont really care not ganna stop me from bring my dollie places!

 

I'm glad you weren't offended, because I actually thought that's pretty funny

I've only had one vaguely bad thing happen so far. I brought my bjd to my belly dance class and my friend turned her over, pushed her panties to the side & showed the class her Dollie vagina. Granted, I had shown it to her the week before, but I didn't push her panties to the side to do it. Somehow her method seemed...more disrespectful? I think I'll put pants on her if they ever meet again lol

 

I confess, I would've laughed too. With yaoi dealers, one should expect that kind of joke! Dude was probably just trying to make a sale, so he probably just assumed you were already on-board with the boy-slut thing (especially with slutty rock-stars being a common yaoi trope). I wouldn't think there'd be many extremely sensitive people shopping at a yaoi booth in the first place. The dealers do tend to make saucy remarks.

 

Yes, Americans are very rude. They also like to force socialization on people. All about conforming. Though there are some who are very nice as well.

As for me? I think my worst experiences have bee involving other doll owners. I've been told that I don't belong in the hobby and that my doll is so cheap that anyone can afford it along with "they'll let anyone in these days" which was completely bizarre to be. But aside from that people have been generally nice, granted I don't take my dolls out much.

 

Not quite public, but when my 1st bjd arrived I excitedly showed him to a group of university friends and acquantances... Suffice it to say, most of them being male scientists (in the physical/mathematical sciences no less...) the overwhelming reaction was a mix of disgust, and I can't believe you bought this horrible thing/looks of you are weird/a disturbed person/implied sexual aspect (ugh I can see why they said that but still) - some of them said things that expressed said opinion... Physicists can be very unpleasant sometines...

Luckily I have a fairly thick skin with respect to that kind of BS, but it was a disheartening start to the hobby! I later showed him to some other closer friends of mine, who whilst they don't want any BJDs themselves were rather more accepting!

 

I believe it might be because most DoA users live there. Although I have no data to prove this, this seems to be the case in many of the international forums that I frequent - they have major American activity.

There's no fair way to lump over 300 million people together and conclude something like this - that "people in America are rude"... It makes no sense, because you will find rude people everywhere. I'm sure walking around with a doll in public could provoke unpleasant reactions in any country, simply because it's something uncommon, and there will always be people who will respond to unfamiliar situations with rudeness or meanness.

 

The only scary doll story I had was one time I was with my best friend at a super busy store and we were walking around, she had her doll in our shopping cart with all our stuff. Sitting up top where you put your kids and we turned away to look at something and when I turned around I just happened to catch some lady walk up to the cart put her hands on it and start pushing it away her doll and ALL our stuff.

I grabbed the cart from her and pulled it back to me with a stern, "Hey."

She just let go and walked off without saying anything, didn't even look at me. Not even a "my mistake" or w/e. So in a way I think it was intentional. I hope not, but I think it was.

 

Oh wow, some of these are terrible. : / I have a few to add to the list...

Me and my roommate were meeting a fellow doll friend at a local mall to do a doll trade off (she had bought a large doll and figured it was cheaper to meet up locally than shipping $30 for a 30 mile journey). For fun we brought some of our other dolls to haul along and chat about with our friend. At one point when we were paused talking on some benches, a little girl and her mother walked by. The girl asked "Mom, why do those ladies have dollies?" Her mother replied "Because they want attention." We were a little shocked, but largely laughed it off.

Another time I was coming home from another doll meet on the bus. I had picked up a SOOM Amber girl for my roomie at the meet, he was too sick to go, and was carting the massive SG box around half-exposed from a backpack with wheels, with a blanket wrapped around the exposed part for intended discretion (as discreet as you can get with something like that!) At one of the bus stops, there was a girl sitting there who almost immediately spotted the massive box and asked "What's in that thing?" Curiosity, I could understand, so I told her it was a type of collectable doll from Asia. She seemed interested so I asked if she wanted to see mine, a Rosette that I had tucked away in my bag. After taking it out and letting her take a peek, she looks up at me and says "Creepy! If I had a doll like that, I'd probably cut off its arms and legs and head and bury it in the back yard. That's what my friend did with her doll." I was more dumbfounded than angry so I calmly tucked my girl safely back into my bag, smiled and nodded, and went along with my business while keeping a closer eye on the dolls I was hauling. >_>

More weird than intimidating, we were having another doll meet (xD Noticing a pattern?) in a public park. A 20-something kid came up to us, asking what the dolls were and craning his head around to look at them all. He spotted my doll, who at the time was sporting an untamed and poofy Tibetan mohair wig of an auburn-orange color (I'll give him that...), and proceeds to exclaim "Whoa!! She looks like Chuckie, man! Shit, if she came alive, man I'd beat the hell outta her, like --" and starts making punching noises and demonstrating with high kicks to nothing in particular in the air, before waving goodbye and running back to his friend group.

Of course about twenty minutes later he was also vomiting into the nearby pond, buuut.

On the whole I have very few negative experiences about going out with the dolls, people are naturally curious or weirded out but tend to mind their own business, or politely ask and satiate that curiosity. I WILL agree with what other people are debating up above, Americans are/can be very rude. I won't lump all of us together, but on the whole from my experience with speaking to people from other countries versus what I run into in public here, we feel we have more of a right to judgmental opinions and to voice them. I also work in the hospitality industry, though, so. ^^; Call me jaded.

 

so lucky i didnt sustain any damage bring my doll out. cuz i havent join any meetup, and just bring my doll for out door shoot. the worst thing iv meet just drop him on the ground. and, thats enough to horror me and broke my heart. anyway, thanks god, hes ok. ^ ^

 

I didn't know that happened! And in my own house no less, funny my sister but I think you almost gave me a heart attack lol.

 

I guess the worst experience I've had would be when I brought my boy to highschool to have him sit with me during art class (which thankfully my art teacher was okay with) and anyone I knew who was curious of him did nothing but wanted to see his genitals. It was funny the first time but it got old really fast and I had to tell people to back off. I know it's no broken limbs or stolen parts but it was definitely the worst thing to have to go through with my doll.

 

It's nothing too horrible, but I had to quit anime club because a girl who didn't like me (now the president) threatened to throw my girl out the window because she felt like she was "ugly," "an expensive piece of crap," and that I was "showing off" and just wanted attention. I think she secretly wanted one too.

Most people have been pretty supportive of my hobby, thankfully, and a few of my friends want dolls too.

 

I went to send Fly's head to a faceup artist on saturday and she SHOOK the box!
Thankfully she was in about 4 layers of protectiveness, but what sort of person takes a package and SHAKES it!? Especially when they work in a post office!

 

I've never actually had something bad happen tp my girl. I've brought her out a few times and every just kinda looks. But I had some people tell me that she's very pretty and love her hair. I'm glad I can say nothing bad has ever happened to me ^^

 

Oh darn, all h would have broken lose if that happened to me. I'm sorry that happened to you.

I testify to that, for I live in that country. Yeah owning a bjd in America is not easy. "It's not normal they say." I hate conformity, it's a filppin joke. They expect you to jump off a bridge just because everyone else is doing is doing it.

Wow that is a very touching story. I went through the same thing (sort of) in high school. I wanted to be apart of this group, but they shunned me for some reason. Even in college, I have a heard time making friends. I have more acquaintances than anything. That's why I brought my personal Sephiroth and I'm going to get my personal adult (oh yes the first bjd is a teen ) Sephiroth before this year is out. There are some people who turn to bjds for comfort, because normal human beings don't provide that much needed support. I hope your life has gotten better since then and I'm glad your Lishe is safe and sound!

 

That definitely sounds intentional. I'm sure she was ready to take off with the doll if you hadn't stopped her.