Your partner and your BJD...

Well I don't have a mate right now but all my friends think my hobbie is weird and they make fun of me all the time. I don't take it personally because my relationships with my friends are close and we make fun of each other all the time. They just laugh about it but I caught a few of them online looking at photos of dollfies and saying "wow! that is a nice doll!". I suppose they don't understand why I like roleplay so much and spend so much on this habbit but they accept it and myself because they too have expensive habbit like strippers and paintball fights haha. Whatever makes me happy makes them happy so I hope to find a mate like that.

 

My husband is great! He worries a little about money but he likes that I enjoy playing with them. Of course, I collected My Little Ponies(sorry OT) for years before we met so it's not like he's not used to toys inhabiting the house And he's really supportive of the creative outlet they offer me.

 

My fiancée has always been supportive of my hobby. He thinks it's great that I'm such a creative person and loves how happy they make me so he wholeheartedly encourages me to pursue it. We splashed out on each other at Christmas, he bought me a Souldoll Delmia (and in return, I got him the equivalent amount of wargaming models and equipment).

I suppose it helps that he has his own hobby, so he can relate better to mine. Although he has plans to buy an Iple Ryan and defile it with mods and paint in his wargamer-ish way ^^

 

I don't have a significant other right now (and probably won't for a long while yet) but I think that they'd HAVE to put up with the dolls, sorry. But the dolls came first. For me, it's like... I don't know, animal lovers. If the partner doesn't like animals, then they just might not be right for me. Because I love them deeply and would want them. So, if they hate/despise/fear/think they're stupid, then they might not work well with me, because the dolls are something I enjoy and they embody some characters of mine who I love deeply. It'd be like telling me that the stories I write where depressing and disturbing so I had to stop writing them. So there really is no other option, my significant other would have to be okay with them, I wouldn't be asking too terribly much, just that they put up with-and hopefully kind of like-them.

Sorry, long post is long. But that's what I think.

 

My partner and I have been together for almost 7 years now. We are both quite weird in our own ways. But when I found dolls, he really loved them too and my first two dolls somehow turned into my first doll and his first doll Right now he has that one doll, he had two more but we sold those. He loves to look at them and sometimes takes pictures but as he puts it, he doesn't do the tech talk As in I'm in charge of eyes, wigs, clothes and all that jazz cause that isn't what he is interested in.

But I have given this some thought, the question as to what I'd do if I had a partner who didn't like my dolls. On one hand, yes, relationships and people are more important then resin BUT on the other hand, it's not the resin that counts, it's what I feel for them. They're such a huge part of my life and a part of me really so if I started dating again and the guy didn't like my dolls to the degree of trying to persuade me to get rid of them, oh well. I don't think it's a good sign anyway if the other half isn't willing to accept you for who you are, weird things and all. I don't think I'd mind if he didn't like them as long as he wouldn't try to manipulate me into selling them. People come and go but I stay with myself and I can't go changing like a chameleon for others if I want to be happy and I wouldn't expect that from anyone else either.

 

My boyfriend always teases me about dolls but he does accept my hobby . He also likes to look through doll websites or pictures on flickr and buys some doll related stuff for me.

 

My husband of many, many years jokes about how I wanted A (as in one) doll. That was a few years ago -- now besides my 7 BJD's I have nearly 400 OT dolls. The BJD's are the only ones he does anything with -- when the first male arrived, he blindfolded the girls claiming a 'blind date'.
He did buy me the last 4 BJD's.

 

When i met my boyfriend about 2 years ago i was kinda not sure how to bring it up or explain the hobby, but i told him and showed him and he said they were really neat. hes not into them, but he knows they make me happy and he humors me ^.^` he is buying me a pukipuki Lily for my birthday even, he has expensive tastes in clothes and watches and loves sports and playing poker so we spend about the same amount on the things we love

 

My husband is very nice and understanding about my hobby. He likes my dolls a lot.
He always support me with my dolly decisions, likes to help me choose names and sometimes give me dolls as gift.
He never said I spend too much in dolls, but he knows everything I buy I ask him first, because they are expensive.

 

My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind my dolls, in fact, he encourages me! I am currently trying to get him into the hobby as well, because I think it would be awesome!
When I first talked to him about it, he said they sound expensive and that I don't need a lot, but I reminded him of his six or seven guitars. I think you can see where this went xD

 

when i first told my kevin about how my "dollie" was moving in too when we first moved in together two years ago he was kinda weirded out by the idea since i couldnt convince him it wasnt going to be some creepy chil-looking porcelin doll type doll. however when my baby boy dariel ((B&G msd ymir mold)) finally arrived my kevin totally breathed a sigh of relief at how strange and pretty dariel is! i started noticing kevin was actually kndove sesitive to my doll even almost treating him like a real person, like if it was a really hot day id see him changing dariel into cooler clothes while im folding laundry, or if its cold he would cover dariel in blankets and he was always brushing dariel's hair out of his face! it was really cute to watch! now whenever we're out my kevin is always bringing me clothes and furniture he thinks might be "dariel-sized" and he even just bought me my dream doll for my birthday to be dariel's friend! ((dollzone msd Mo2 to be named "kari")) and when i joked with him one day about what he would do if we ever broke up he answered me without hesitation "i would probably have to buy a bjd for myself... since the house would feel lonely and strange without one!" i proceeded to tease him about how he would miss my dolly but not me!

 

I started my partner off with little apple dolls and he thought they were funky. Then he was with me as i fell into the world of BJDs and watched me become obsessive. He's been fun about it. Hes a lot older than me and we are currently long distance, but he had no problem with me and my dolls. He even got excited when i was waiting for my first whole doll (he wasnt so impressed with the head on its own that i bought off a marketplace.) I even caught him debating buying his own little doll! :P

 

My girlfriend likes BJD's aswell, so she thinks it's fun I bought a doll she have her eyes on petdolls, I hope she can afford one in the future

 

My boyfriend likes the photos I take of the dolls, he can appreciate the artistic aesthetic of the dolls, but he thinks they're creepy without wigs on and he hates how much I spend on them

 

My partner owns three of the most expensive BJD's in the house (the rest of the house is full of my BJD's and other toys and dolls).

He's not into dolls, generally, but every so often he sees one he can't resist.

Teddy

 

My husband was not very supportive. At first, he was actually pretty negative about BJDs. He thought they were extremely expensive, and extremely creepy! However, knowing me as well as he does, he was pretty used to me collecting various things. Once he interacted with them a bit, he kind of got interested, not enough to actually buy one, but at least he ceased being so negative.

He still gets a little vocal about the prices of things BJD related, and was definitely annoyed when I went on a little spending bender earlier this year. He calmed down after I explained to him that these items hold value pretty well (yeah... like I would EVER sell any of it! lol).

I think I may get him a BJD of his own at some point to see if that changes his mind (or at least - gives me yet one more body!). ;-)

 

Hm well ever since I officially started the hobby I've been in two relationships. One was quite immature and he actually thought he was being replaced by a doll -.- that really pissed me off. The thought I mean, how can a guy think he's being replaced by a doll. sure the doll means everything to me. But at the end of the day, he's still just a doll. And he was my boyfriend. It was really pethatic, but in the end we did split up (I think the BJD thing was part of the break-up) but I didn't care. Because if someone isn't suportive with my hobby (or at LEAST accept it) they're not worth my time.
Sure I dont expect them to like it as much as I do. Ofc not, but this was just... Well doesn't matter.

The second one was actually really supportive. He found it really endearing to see me with them! And he loved the photography I did and how I was around my dolls. He often called me their mother haha. So that made him the dad I guess. Nonetheless he just loved the fact that they made me so happy, and had a nic and creative hobby of my own. The fact he DIDNT like was that I (as more said in this thread) spend so much money on them. I dont blaim him tho. But the part of having a hobby is, you gotta be willing to pay the price for it. If it's expensive (like this one. BJD) you have to be willing to accept the fact you're loosing a lot of money on it. And well I AM a little drastic with that, I gotta admit. I'm broke due my hobby most of the time. Nonetheless I enjoy myself. And I think that's the most important thing right?
But in the end, we split up again. Not because of that thankgod. But because of several other interests. And it just wasnt working out.
I still miss him though, now I think about it he'll probably be one of the few who supported me as much as he did. But I'm sure I'll be ok. I think I'm one of the few people who doesn't mind being alone. I like it this way haha. It's so quiet and I have more time to myself. Kinda neat.

But I admit I DO was a little afraid of telling him about it at first. I thought he'd laugh at me or think I'd still play with barbies -.- but I was relieved he loved it in the end. And even almost encouraged him to buy one himself XD that was pretty funny.

 

I'm still waiting for my doll to come home ;_; However, my boyfriend of 5 years is actually almost as excited as I am for her to arrive (in a manly way of course ;P ). He also paid for a fourth of it for a birthday present so we'll see how he feels once a portion of my time becomes dedicated to her haha xD

 

As my boyfriend's an anime fan and collects action figures, he treats my dolls as a part of our collection) sometimes he even gives me advice on their style if I ask

 

I'm currently not dating anyone now but when I was, he was just like... you're weird but that's okay because you except weird stuff I like.